Serious Daters: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
The Final Day of The Month of Love
This is the last day of what I designated “The Month of Love” but that doesn’t mean love no longer needs to be celebrated. How many relationships have you had because they went stale? Broken into a day-to-day routine the love that was there seemed to have evaporated into a boring daily schedule.
When this happens it’s easy to blame your partner for not being more loving, for putting down the torch that was once held high for you. But what’s really going on isn’t you being taken for granted, it’s a breakdown of communication.
We’re not effectively taught communication skills, it’s just something that we’re just supposed to “pick up” in our teens and twenties. So if you see your relationship going sour, before you start an argument about why the relationship is now horrible and you’re sure you’re just being taken for granted, take some time to give a serious look to your complaints. Often the root problem is the lack of communication. (You can find some communication skills books here.)
You and your partner have fallen into a rut and, without discussing it this, blame eventually get’s laid on someone and a fight starts, which is not only the wrong thing to do, it’s pretty hard to take back as a complaint against your partner.
Communication skills can be learned at any phase of a relationship and are at the core of all marriage and relationship counselling sessions. When you can communicate effectively with your partner all of the small problems disappear and the big issues become small ones.
I say this because love needs to be celebrated every day. From a hug and a kiss first thing in the morning to a hug and a kiss at night time. Maybe some special acknowledgements throughout the day, now and again (which has been discussed in other posts and articles here).
Today’s personal ad headline is a serious one, for serious daters:
“Only the serious and qualified should apply.”
Have a great day!
Opportunities and Obstacles: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Out the door, into real life.
I am buried under snow. Much less than the east saw last week, but still enough to reach my knees in places and require an hour or two of shoveling my rather short and thin driveway. Dammit.
Life does offer it’s challenges. I guess I’m lucky that shoveling is mine, for the time being. After all it is Monday and I’m sure something more will happen, like another dump of snow while I’m at work (thanks weatherman!).
Despite it all I can admit to not being second many times in my life, right Steelers fans?
Sorry, it’s not really in my nature to show my sarcastic side to people not in front of my face, or behind me.
As I was saying, the weather hasn’t been all that kind to any of us lately, and I do mean the world population. It’s hard to pick any time zone (and geographic area) that hasn’t had a flood, fire or blizzard to bring chaos and harm upon it within recent memory.
And yet using “How about this weather?” still ranks as a top ten worst pickup line. (I think the rankings need to be updated.)
Life brings to us opportunities and some of these opportunities are disguised as obstacles. It’s your decision what will stand in your way and what you will get through.
For today’s dating profile headline I offer you this suggestion:
“I have never raced towards second place.”
Have a great day!
Dating Strategies: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Friday - In the Month of Love
Dating is all about communication. This is basic and it’s often the most misunderstood.
Communication encompasses body language, the spoken word, and our actions that speak louder than words.
Is it any wonder that when people don’t understand these tools of communication you have breakdowns of emotion and breakups of relationships?
There are plenty of downloadable ebooks that can offer you much more information about these topics, suffice it to say I can’t write everything about them in one, or even several, articles. (Look to the right for some suggested titles and visit the ebooks page too.)
If you can walk and talk then without a doubt you’ve allowed your words to speak differently than your actions at some point and suffered the consequences.
I know, horrible memories.
I want to share with you a strategy for helping others understand you as you are talking with them. This is a salesman’s trick but it also works very well with any type of interpersonal communication. It’s called the “mirror technique” and it’s all about mirroring the body language of the person you’re talking with so that they don’t instinctively sense you as a threat but as a friend instead.
If their arms are crossed across their chest, you do it too. Crossed arms are a sign of defense and preparation for a fight (mostly) but if you mirror this position then you’re instinctively “one of the tribe” and the defense will soon turn to arms at their sides and a more open and friendly posture.
Try this the next time you’re talking with someone, this mirroring technique, and you’re very likely to bring down their defenses and increase your friendship level too.
As for online dating, be open and friendly in your messages and do not prejudge the people you exchange messages with, unless their freaks 9then just don’t respond at all).
The headline suggestion for today is this:
“If you don’t say hello you’ll never know.”
Have a great day!
Traction: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Today is important!
Traction is what we need in life.
A good grip on the ground around us and the power to consistently move forward.
Anyone can give you a push but you alone have the power to continue through life and love; to pursue and enjoy; to achieve and celebrate.
If for nothing else this second month of the year, when new Year resolutions are cast aside, you should prepare yourself for reaching the real goals that may be holding you back from enjoying the life you feel you deserve.
Write down your top three goals and tape them to your bathroom mirror and every morning read them and decide which will be the number one goal for your day. And run towards tat goal, towards the light at then end of the tunnel.
Decide today, decide now, what is most important to you. And go!
Today’s headline suggestion is this:
“I’d like you to be part of what is most important to me.”
Have a great day!
