Dating in the News
Have you really found what works for you in your dating adventure? Are you finding love or losers?
11 Types Of Women Men Don’t Want To Date (PHOTOS). Huffington Post (satire)
… Women To Avoid, Comedy News. Dating is hard, especially for women. But it’s easier when you know there are certain types of women that heterosexual men will always avoid. And fellas, if you’re dating one of these ladies, steer clear!
Are You Dating A Cat Or A Dog? - The Frisky. The Frisky (blog)
A lot of people think of acts of romance as being gender-specific. Men should bring home bouquets of long-stemmed roses and women should wear naughty lingerie to keep the fire burning in their relationships. The problem with this kind of thinking is …
Dating: what works?. WGN Radio By Margaret Larkin
Bill Moller talks to Stefanie Safran from Stef and the City about statistics that reveal what is effective for meeting people and the options for finding that someone special.
Truthfulness and healthier relationships
Alex Allman, author of Revolutionary Sex, talks about how a guy can trust his girlfriend after he catches her in a lie.
In this video I’m going to give you 5 tips that will keep you from EVER being lied to again in a relationship.
Do you judge her instead of having an openness and honesty in your relationship?
To get a head start in truthfulness and healthier relationships read Revolutionary Sex right now!
Why Men Settle Down With One Woman And Not Another
By Christian Carter, Author of best-selling eBook Catch Him & Keep Him and free newsletter
Some men aren’t able to commit to a woman because they’re not ready or the timing isn’t right. But often, even a committed bachelor will take the plunge when he meets a woman who embodies a certain mindset that creates what I call emotional attraction in him:
SHE’S NOT LOOKING TO HIM TO FILL A JOB DESCRIPTION
Want to know one of the biggest fears men have about relationships and commitment? That you only want us to fill a need - because you’re looking for a husband and to have children. We, just like you, want to be wanted for who we are and not just for what we can give. And so, the minute a man gets even a hint that you have an agenda other than getting to know him, he immediately shuts down and starts to feel less attracted to you.
It’s really tempting to think that your time is precious and that you need to let a man know right away whether or not he’s up for a lifelong commitment. But the danger comes in making this the primary focus of your early interactions with a man. Take your time in getting to know a man and letting him see that you enjoy being with him - that he’s not just a means to an end.
SHE SHOWS HIM SHE’S WILLING TO WALK AWAY
When a man thinks you’ve centered your whole life around him and that you’ve already decided he’s the one before he talks about commitment, he’ll feel pressured. He’ll feel pressured to live up to your expectations, and he’ll also feel anxious about letting you down. He’ll also wonder why you’ve made up your mind about him so quickly.
Instead, you need to convey to a man that you are selective. Being selective means you let him know that while you like him and enjoy being with him, you are also a woman with options who is in control of what happens to her. How do you do this? By continuing to have a life outside him - nurturing your hobbies, spending time with friends and family, improving your life and career. When you do this, he starts feeling lucky to have a place in your life, and he’ll fight to stay there.
HIS LIFE IS MUCH BETTER WITH HER IN IT THAN WITHOUT
One of the biggest things I teach is about building a solid foundation for a lasting relationship with a man. And the way to do this is by creating POSITIVE EXPERIENCES with him. Men can’t be talked into relationships. The need for commitment arises from an emotional need deep inside a man. In order for a man to see you as a necessary part of his life, you need to create the right kind of experiences that serve to create emotional attraction in him.
A positive experience is anything that you both enjoy and that, above all, is fun. Fight the need to talk about the relationship, and instead turn your attention to creating great moments together. Do different things with him - play sports along with the usual dinners and movies. Spend time in groups of friends. Read the paper together and do spontaneous things without planning. Mix it up. All of these experiences show him that you are a woman who is easy and playful to be with, and that’s the kind of woman he’ll realize he’d be a fool to let go of.
Understanding attraction and how it works is absolutely critical if you want to create a connected, lasting relationship with a man. To learn more about the kind of woman a great guy is attracted to for the long term, subscribe to Christian’s free e-newsletter. He’ll tell you what makes a guy want to commit to you, and what you can do to get him there without any convincing or game playing.
My wish for you is that your next relationship is the one that lasts forever,
Robert Lee, editor of aLoveLinksPlus.com
Plus and Minus: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Dating has the cuteness of a puppy
Dating involves two people, maybe with the same goals, maybe not.
You can date for tonight (Mr. Right Now) or for the long-term but you never know if the person you’re with shares the same dating plans you do, or if they did once whether those feelings have changed.
If you keep score in your relationship you’ll see the pluses and minuses of how you manage your relationship and how the things you seek come to fruition.
Love, dating and your relationship are all on the line as you move forward as part of a couple.
It’s a balancing act and you won’t always get more out of the relationship than you put in and that’s OK.
For your personal ad headline today give this a try:
“We can talk and walk and be happy.”
Have a great day!
First Dates in the News
Diane Von Furstenberg is Giving First Date Outfit Advice on Match.com. Match.com - Fashionista By Dhani Mau Wednesday, Nov 2, 2011 / 3:27 PM
We can’t really think of a more magazine-prescribed “first date-appropriate” outfit than the DVF wrap dress. And over the years, Diane von Furstenberg has become a bit of a voice of wisdom for the fashion …
Vancouver: Where to Go On a First Date. Canadian National Newspaper
Your first date with someone may determine whether you go out with them again so the setting must be right. Don’t go out for a fancy dinner. Fancy dinners should be saved for special people and on a first date it looks like you’re trying too hard. …
Victims of Self-Sabotage: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Are you a victim of self-sabotage when you’re beginning to date someone new?
It’s perfectly normal to wonder if the person you’ve met is good enough for you. It’s not normal to wonder if you’re good enough for them.
We all have some trepidation about our relationships, there are always minor incidents that give us reason to pause and consider the events and how they relate to the relationship we hope for.
When you act out of fear and sabotage your relationships it’s time to consider what you think is a normal life for yourself.
Are you deserving of happiness? If you cannot answer yes to the question you need to reconsider how you view yourself and your self-worth.
My headline suggestion for you today is this:
“Am I good enough or too good to date you?”
Have a great day!
Dating in the News
New twists to online dating. MiamiHerald.com By Joshunda Sanders
With hundreds of millions of users on Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and Google Plus, how do you navigate dating on social networks? Some singles say they’re better than traditional dating sites at giving you a full picture of the object …
Mayoral clutter brings speed-dating campaign advice. Portland Daily Sun
Few of these grassroots candidates are employing political consultants or polling experts, so they can learn much from the rules of speed-dating. It was easy to find some “do and don’t” lists on the web. You just have to translate from speed-date to …
Lesbian Cougars Now Have a Dating Site to Hunt for Cubs. SheWired
There is a new dating site ready to help mature lesbians who are looking for young Sapphic love. According to the website, Lesbian Cougar Dating is for women who “enjoy being in the company of lesbian cubs who are willing to experiment and let go”. …
Staten Island gets the big kiss-off in Match.com poll of New Yorkers. SILive.com
Web dating site Match.com surveyed more than 1000 city singles on their dating preferences, and discovered that only 8 percent of singles from Manhattan, the Bronx and Queens would be willing to make the trek here to go out on a date. …
15 second pitch: Dottie Ricketson, Dating & Relationship Coach Daily Camera.
The company’s pitch: Utilizing the Intentional Relationships Methodology, Dottie works with singles who are struggling to find that special relationship and can’t figure out what is standing in their way. This proven system helps identify patterns, …
4 Ways Job Hunting and Dating are Similar. Learnvest Living (blog)
Dating and job hunting both have their ups and downs, and sometimes both of them can feel like emotional rollercoasters. It’s really hard to find a job that’s just right for you, and the journey to find it can be as hard as looking for love. …
Speed Dating - Older men younger women. Antipodate.co.uk
These speed dating evenings are great fun. For best results we recommend you come along with an open mind and don’t take it too seriously. You’ll have a great time, you’ll meet lots of single people and you might meet someone special. …
CORRELATING PRIVATE AFFINITIES
Is Microsoft entering the online dating industry?
According to this patent that was filed in 2009 and recently discovered, Microsoft is seeking to patent a “private affinities” dating service of the type Microsoft describes would be a system where you would be a member of the service and describe your most private likes and dislikes, i.e. you really liked wearing velvet (as opposed to the description in the patent of two comic book lovers) but wouldn’t normally expose that part of your personality online but in this dating service scenario revealing this “like” would only be shown to others that shared the same “like” of wearing velvet.
Now, I can see this being a premium ad-on to the popular MSN Messenger service, or maybe a stand-alone service. Time will tell. So far Microsoft is quiet about their plans on this “Private afffinity” dating service, but the future will reveal all.
Here’s the first part of the description of the “service” in the patent application:
One or more computer storage media having a system embodied thereon including computer-executable instructions that, when executed, leverage a private affinity in order to facilitate or enrich relationships, the system comprising:a cryptography component that receives a profile associated with a user, the profile including a set of private affinities that describes the user and that are cryptographically protected from public inspection, wherein protected from public inspection is defined by a degree of authorization that exceeds a level of authorization required to access the underlying profile;a matching component that compares a private affinity from the set to a disparate affinity included in a disparate profile associated with a disparate user in order to identify a matching affinity that correlates with the private affinity; anda notification component that generates a message that indicates the matching affinity has been identified, the message including a request to publish to the disparate user revealed information included in the profile.
Read the patent filing here. Apple Quicktime plugin may be needed by your browser to view the documents drawings (rather odd, but still…) with a G5 tiff viewer installed. I couldn’t get any images to display in Internet Explorer, Firefox and Safari browsers, even after installing the plugin for each. Any recommendations or screenshots of the images by you would be greatly appreciated.
New “Inside the Mind of a Man” Article
New article published today.
Women sharing intimate moments with men is all about sex (so men try to believe). Men sharing intimate moments with women is all about emotion (so women want to believe).
