What if he doesn’t call?
One of the biggest questions I am asked on a Sunday afternoon is what a girl should do if the guy she met Saturday night doesn’t call her.Now, while I can give a general answer to this question, a more detailed and personal answer all depends on the exact circumstances of the meeting and where/what happened later on with the guy.
If he simply approached you and asked for your number/email address, then a regular guy will contact you within the next three days. If he doesn’t call then feel free to ask him some tough questions like:
- why didn’t he call sooner?
- what are his intentions?
- what are his plans about getting together again? Are they solid “Let’s do this…” plans or does he just expect you to hang out with him, somewhere, somewhen?
If you just met him and then you spent some time together, hanging out, partying, whatever, you should expect a call the next day to ask you if you had fun and to make tentative plans for the next week or weekend. If he’s a regular guy, that is.
If you went beyond just hanging out and you made out or went “very far” sexually with him, getting a call for more than a repeat of the “booty call” you had is usually far-fetched.
When guy’s get a lot of “action” from a woman he usually doesn’t behave very well afterwards. He will expect, at the very least, a repeat performance without having to “officially” be dating you. Much more like a “Friends With Benefits” type arrangement. Which really sucks.
So, to break this down, you can expect a guy to call you within three or four days after getting your number, or contacting you by email/instant messenger, if he approached you just for your name and number/email and you only chatted for a few minutes.
If you behaved more sexually towards him he should call you wihin two days, or you’re welecome to ream him out with the tough questions above.
Ladies, always remember, you have the power over the guys you date and as soon as you give up that power of choice, you become a slave to him emotionally and you end up in a restricted relationship that goes nowhere, despite your best efforts.
*Regular guys aren’t on the lookout for easy sex or just picking women up. They have respect for themselves and others.