Isn’t Love Grand? Your Credit and Dating
Love and money
The days seem brighter, everyone sees you smiling and secretly you know that they know that you’re in love and that’s why they’re smiling back at you.
Love is great!
Have you ever heard the phrase “Love and money”?
Love and money go hand-in-hand to bring the brightest days. When you’re in love there can be little expense you would not encumber yourself with to make your loved one’s existence a little more perfect, a little less stressful.
And therein lies the crux of the matter. Love and money and the willingness to be a great provider/lover.
Throughout your life, including your online dating adventure, somone at sometime will ask you for money. It may not be a loan but a gift they ask for. Help with an outstanding bill (big or small), or maybe simply your signature on a piece of paper to allow your new love to get a mobile phone, or the electricity turned back on.
You are put on the spot to prove your love through a financial arrangement that helps your lover out of a bind or makes their life just a touch less stressful.
And we all want to help, to be the savior of this unfairness that we now see our partner suffering.
It may just be a few dollars, it may just be a signature on a line. But with these actions you put your credit on the line and even worse, these decisions will (not could) make or break your relationship.
If you are asked for money make sure you get a promissory note that your lover signs that acknowledges not only the loan but also the repayment plan. You can easily find a promissory note sample online and a free fax service, if needed, to use to have the note signed.
If your lover is bold enough to use your relationship for financial help then you need to step up and protect your interests by having a loan document signed by them.
If they are asking you to risk your credit by signing on the dotted line to get them a mobile phone account then you need to seriously consider if you can handle the payments on your own should the relationship terminate.
Because contracts only end at the time specified but love can end in a heartbeat.
If you don’t have a handle on what your current credit score is or what your credit report says about your financial health then I urge you to take the steps needed to know that your credit score is and what the financial companies you deal with are saying about your credit-worthiness. “Get Equifax 3 Bureau Credit Report and Scores Now!”
Here are a few horror stories to help you understand that this issue can arise with anyone at any time.
- Love May Be Blind, But MoneyGram Recommends Keeping Eyes Wide Open To Avoid Risk of Romance Scam
- Toronto man accused of defrauding online dates
- Woman who tricked two teenage girls into relationships by disguising herself as a boy faces jail
- Better Business Bureau Highlights Scams To Expect In 2012
Dating Profile Headline of the Day: A Smashing Success
Be strong enough to choose.
Others may rate your performance for things here and there. Others may hold sway over the choices that are offered to you.
But do not be remiss in thinking that you never have a choice, the choice to do or not to do is always yours.
And you have to also remember that your choice will always have implications on others.
No matter what the decision is to be made I urge you to be strong enough to make the choice, to choose, no matter how painful or fateful. Choose.
If you decide not to make your own choice you can be certain there are others that will make the choice for you, usually to a much worse end.
Be true to yourself, you are the judge and jury of your life.
For your personal ad headline today give this a try:
“I am strong enough to choose, are you?”
Have a great day!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day: Magic
Well, if Justin Bieber can have a child out of wedlock the world really is going to hell in a hand-basket (my admiration of Lindsay Lohan notwithstanding).
What you roll out of bed for in the morning is to put your best foot forward and make a positive impact on the lives of the people you interact with during the day.
No one gets up in the morning planning to have a crappy day, right?
Today is your day and it all starts with using this as your dating profile headline:
“If you believe in love share with me some of your magic.”
Have a great day!
Love, and Life, is a Fragile Thing: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Corners that change our path.
I don’t know what happens at the end but I do know that we have a destiny with the life we are given. We have control over the love that we share, if we want to share love.
You can be Love.
You have a Life to share.
Live your days not as if they are your last but as though you have love today and in all of your tomorrows.
For your personal headline today use this:
“There are no dead-ends in life, just corners that change our path.”
Have a great day!
I Love You: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Do you remember when you first said “I love you” or when it was first said to you?Three simple words that change your relationships and your life.
Everyone experiences the fear of loving someone and not knowing if they love you back. The truth we seek is that we are not only capable of loving someone but that we are suitable in someone else’s eyes to be loved by them.
If you’re uncertain about someone being able to love you, the search for advice and help is readily available in many forums and communities online. But be certain that the advice you read and find is applicable to yourself. Many times we find what we want to find but what we needed was advice of another type entirely.
Take care and find true love, not love that is held hostage by demands and changes. You will know it when love is revealed to you.
For your personal ad headline to help you find love, post this headline:
“Seeking true love, I have enough friends.”
Have a great day!
You’ll Love These!: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
“These are the ones you’ll love!”
I think I’ve heard this term about 30 times this past week and not once has it had anything to do with dating… not even swinger services have used this tagline.
But waffles, shoes, pants, etc., sure… all good. (*sob*) I guess.
I like to think that dating does offer you choice. Redhead or blonde. Big shoulders or more mature.
“Go big or go home because these are the ones you’re going to love!”
I hated to be told what to do and when it’s pushing what I consider to be a dime-store novelty or a hoax medicinal product, watch out for my retribution (or at least several harsh words to the person next in line).
For your personal ad headline today try this:
“Nothing freaky, just looking for true love.”
Have a great day!
Sex Fantasies: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
In my mind, my best advice to you and your online dating adventure is this: Until you’re close enough to smell the person do not open up and offer the other person free access to your life and love.We’ve all heard about, or read in the news, how an online affair ended badly for someone.
When we are looking for love online it’s very easy to fall in love with a person’s profile, picture and wordsmithery.
When reading messages from that person that has entered our online life it’s important to remember that you’re receiving only a one-dimensional picture of that person. It’s easy to forget that your online sex fantasy with that person is just that, a fantasy.
Until you meet face-to-face and have the opportunity to view for yourself that person’s personal hygiene and mannerisms does the reality of the online affair become alive. And it may have been a one-way affair with the other person just trying to gain your trust enough to ask for money, travel, or something else that could cost you dearly.
First meetings with your online lover often end up in bed just because of your attempt to make your sex fantasy real. And more often than not the reality is a disappointment and you’ve been taken advantage of before you’re fully aware of what happened.
I urge you to use a high level of caution with your acceptance of others into your life that you only know online. Love, as well as danger, lurks everywhere.
For your dating profile headline today why not try this one to get more people visiting your profile page:
“Saying hello only takes a minute, not saying hello lasts a lifetime.”
Have a great day!
Fantasy Love: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
In a general sort of way we all like to be scared, to find that adrenaline rush and inner strength rush awake inside us.
That’s why horror movies are so popular, feeling fear and ultimately coming out a hero, saving the damsel, the town, the children.
There is also the “romantic love” drama movies that awaken inside up the compassion and heartfelt love we seek in the real world.
I know you know what I’m talking about.
It is this need for stimulation that keeps us scaring ourselves and searching out love, whether real or entertainment.
Know that you can recognize these differing experiences you can work on the ones that you prefer, like real-world love.
For your dating profile headline try this one today:
“Let’s step out of fantasy and meet in the real world soon!”
Have a great day!
In The Palm of Your Hand: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
In The Palm of Your Hand
If you feel powerful at this moment then good for you. If you’re afraid of dropping them or feel like throwing them against the wall, then maybe love isn’t what you feel for this person standing in the palm of your hand.
Love and power go together.
When you’re in love you should have a feeling of self-determination, that is, having control over your life, not the feeling of loss, of relinquishing control over your life to someone else (very unhealthy).
If you have no control your relationship will drift along, rudderless, until it hits the rocks.
For your dating profile headline today post this:
“I know the difference between love and control”.
Have a great day!
Give You Anything: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Thursday
I can give you anything you want, but only one thing at a time. When the next thing comes along you lose the current one. In what order do you choose fame, fortune, love, friendship and romance?
I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer but I know that I would rather endure years of romance and then love above the other choices.
And we do have these choices to make every day. They may not be exclusive of each other but the choice has to be made. Work harder and love less for fortune? Chase romance and lose friendships?
Just something for you to consider.
For your dating profile headline try this one:
“I can’t wait much longer to meet you.”
Have a great day!
Life: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Wednesday
As a writer I sometimes feel constricted by the curse of the blinking cursor. It’s waiting to be transformed into letters and sentences. Cohesive thoughts evade the cursor but become sentences as if to evade the blankness of the continued blinking.
Then I walk away and see what’s on television or rising the popularity charts of youtube and other video sites.
Everyone needs a break sometimes.
Sometimes we decide when the break is taken and other times the break time is decided for us. It’s called life, right?
It is life that we struggle to make into a documented event, so that we are remembered later in life. The break you take in the life you have should be with the intention of planning your successful next step.
Don’t waste your breaks.
For your personal ad headline today this is what I suggest for you:
“Can we find out if our life’s priorities match?”
Have a great day!
Are You There?: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
The Japan tsunami disaster
Are we soon to witness a nuclear meltdown in Japan? More than one?
In times of great distress, where everything you had is gone in a flash, as is being experienced by hundreds of thousands of Japanese people, that love is the only thing that wil carry you through the ordeal.
Knowing that the people you hold most dear are alive and safe is more important than possessions and money. It is love that gives our lives real meaning.
If you’re rich your money may have had made life more comfortable before the disaster and may make rescue of family and loved ones a higher priority after the disaster (because you’d have the financial resources to attempt a rescue more feasible), but Mother Nature doesn’t care about bank accounts or social status. We are all susceptible to the same level of destruction as our neighbor is in the moment of disaster. It is love that carries us from the worst that could happen to the joy of knowing the people we hold most dear are alive and safe.
We see this joy over and over replayed in the news.
If you are alone, if you have no one, who will you share the joy of living with? Who will look for you if disaster strikes?
Hell, what happens if you have the flu or a simple cold?
Family, friends and lovers, these are the people that get us through the tough moments that life (and Mother Nature) throws at us.
And when you’re actively looking for love it’s love that you expect to find. Now, I can’t tell you where you’ll find love. It could be at an online dating service, it could be when when you bump into a stranger at the grocery store.
But if you’re actively looking for love you will find it.
For a headstart maybe you want to change the headline of your online dating profile to this:
“Love means never having to ask ‘Are you there?’ “
Have a great day!
Karma and Love: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Karma and Love
Today is a “new romance for you” day. I want you to be prepared because someone you meet today, or “spy with your little eye” is going to be the next major love of your life.
You will see him or her and say to them “I really like that ***(outfit, shirt, shoes, something they did), can we go out and have a coffee later (after work, at break, at a specific time)?”
It is that simple to meet the next major love of your life. Taking matters in your own hands, karma brought the person near you, it’s up to you to take these nexr steps I’ve just told you about.
Do it!
The thing about love is that very rarely is it “scripted” into our lives. We have to go and get love, not wait for love to drop into our lives with a big “love” sign attached to their foreheads.
For today’s headline I offer this to you:
“If it feels like love, then it is! Your turn to take the next step!”
Have a great day!