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Posts tagged ‘Instinct’

4
Oct

Life can Be Good: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Life can be good.

It comes as no surprise that people can make life harder than it needs to be.

Dating is one of these situations that fear can overtake the natural instinct to be social. But you don’t have to be alone when you don’t want to be alone if you can take dating slowly enough that you become comfortable going out alone, meet people, and have a good time without fear or heightened (and often unreasonable) expectations that you force on yourself.

The one piece of advice I can offer you about being alone and dating is this:
Allow yourself to have an “escape plan”. Often if you have a way to excuse yourself from a social environment when you become uncomfortable, this knowledge makes the social encounter easier to deal with.

Knowing that you can reasonably leave allows you to have the freedom from expectations that gives you the confidence to, at the very least, test the social waters and build upon these experiences.

For your dating profile headline try this one today:
“Life should be fun, let’s have fun together!”

Have a great day!

22
Sep

Judging Others: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Do you see “into” people? Or do you just see their outer “attitude”?

We all have two faces: the one we share with strangers and the one we share with close family and friends.

We all see only one face from the people around us and the people we meet. Then we judge them, pigeon-hole them so we can make sense of their personality.

It’s a hard world after all.

Today your challenge is to not judge others until you’ve spent more time getting to know them. Refuse to be mislead by the part of your brain that classifies everyone and everything so it can understand the people you’re with.

When you can control this instinctive (and often misleading) classification of others you will allow yourself to really get to know people whereas before you’d just as easily not bother with them at all.

Today your dating profile headline suggestion is:
“I can follow you if you get the party started.”

Have a great day!

29
Apr

Instinct: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Friday

The weekend is upon us, not the honeymoon that is anticipated after the Royal Wedding, but we will participate in a simple weekend of our own design.

I myself will be people watching, one of my favorite pastimes, creating stories woven into the slight interaction as the people become a part of my world, if only for a second or two.

At our heart we are all people watchers. The instinct to see if we immediately belong to the group that that person is a part of, to see if we can co-exist, maybe even become friends, is a part of our instinct, a cog in our “fight or flight” ancestral behavior.

Online dating overrides this very basic part of us, this is why the first meeting is filled with more dread than most. Throughout the search and the following conversational messages as you get to know the person, try as you might you can’t fully understand their “being” until you’re close enough to smell them, to hear their accent, to shake their hand, touching them.

Taking the bold step forward of meeting your date online and converting the online aspect to a real date is what online dating is all about. This also adds a new required basic instinct of trusting the words that are written by a stranger for other strangers.

How good are your interpretation skills?

Today’s dating profile headline is this:
“I will read your words and hope to hear your voice.”

Have a great day!