Making Online Dating Success Happen
Three things you must do to make yourself more successful at any online dating service.
Honesty: Many people make the mistake that online dating is just a fantasy experience, not fully realizing that eventually what they say about themselves online needs to match up with what the people they will meet in the real world meet to avoid disappointment.
High Expectations: We are sold the “meet your perfect match” experience which often is not an attainable goal. Not because your perfect match isn’t out there but because you’re looking for the 100% match not the 70% match that allows you the true experience we find in the real world. Dating is part mystery, finding things out about a person to share and learn to love, when possible. Looking only for people who are a perfect match with your ideals will only lead to dating disillusion.
Have Perseverance: There are three things most definitely true in life: death, taxes and you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince (or princess). Online dating mirrors life in that not too much happens when we expect it to happen, but when we are least expecting love, it happens. Take your time and enjoy the single dating life and you’ll enjoy life a lot more than if you act and look desperate.
Personal Ad Headline of the Day: Market Your Love
You have the rest of your life to find love.Will today be the day that not only you start looking but you also begin to make significant changes in your own well-being to be a more “marketable person”?
Anyone can say anything online but that doesn’t make it true.
When YOU say something and it’s a fact that is a deal-maker or a deal-breaker when you do get a first meeting/date the truth will be the only survivor of that time together.
The TRUTH has to be true and not just based on your lying eyes but also on what the person across the table sees as well.
Will they see the real you or the fantasy you that, because no one is looking over your shoulder, you feel that you can easily add a few little white lies as you write your profile hoping no one will catch you out.
And the excuse that everyone is adding a few white lies to their profile should NOT be the deciding factor for you to also lie to the person that you do hope to be sitting across the table from you in a few nights.
Truth will win out. And truth is a positive first step in any relationship. Ask anyone that has had or is currently in a long-term relationship and how honesty played a part in it.
For your online dating profile headline try this one:
“Honesty makes dating a real effort to find love online; and I’m honest.”
Have a great day!
Honesty in Dating: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Monday
Today is a game-changer for everything we do from this point onwards. Life will never be the same.
As opposed to the “infinite universe theory” where there are an infinite number of this world, of you, and all possibilities are played out to their conclusion, in this universe you have but one choice, one change in your path, that takes you to the next choice and the next change in your path.
There are no “do-overs”, no second chances.
You may think that everything happens for a reason but that is the coward’s way out. You create your own destiny, your own future. How you get “there” from “here” is entirely up to you.
Dating online does offer you plenty of opportunities to make big changes to your life, not the least of which goes with becoming one half of a couple instead of a single person.
Every decision leads to another and another and I can tell you that the more honesty that goes into your decisions and that your decisions are based on, will greatly increase the success you receive.
Today put one foot in front of the other and live your life well.
For your personal ad headline today I suggest:
“I am usually the leader but it would be wonderful to be your co-pilot.”
Have a great day!
Match.com March Marathon
Today, Day Two, we’re going to start with completing our profile.Every step in the Match.com profile has been carefully crafted to not only provide you a comfortable place to talk about yourself but also with enough tips and help that will inspire you to write well about yourself without being egotistic or seeming narcissistic.
If you follow along step-by-step, you will easily fall into step with Match.com and how to best use this popular dating service to your benefit.
About Me profile section
With the “About Me” section you’re asked to answer some questions by multiple choice, and other questions in essay form. Yes, I know, “essay form”, I bet you thought you left that behind a long time ago, right? This time you’re not trying for an “A+” you’re score is a date.
Your gender, the sex of the person you’re loking for, where you live and your astrological sign form the better part of “About Me - Basics”. When you’re done, about 20 seconds, click the “Send for approval” button.
During the profile completion steps you will be given two options: “Save and continue” and “Send for approval”. “Save and continue” means that you’re either done with the section or you’ll come back to answer the questions. “Send for approval” finalizes your answers (which can be changed later) and sends them to be approved by Match.com staff. This is a safeguard against not only spammers but also people that might be using the service for other nefarious reasons. Crime in online dating services isn’t rampant, but frauds do happen, more so (I believe) in free dating services because they don’t have the resources to check each profile for clarity and common sense, something that is often lacking at free dating services and with criminals too.
It is important to remember that whenever you edit, change or modify your profile you must “Send for approval” before it is again displayed for others to see. This is important to remember because, firstly, your profile is not available during this time, although communication is not stopped between people you’ve had contact with so far (unless they block you), and secondly, recently approved profiles appear closer to the top (first) just as profiles with pictures are shown before profiles without pictures.
While I do recommend regular updating to both your headline and your profile, you shouldn’t be doing this so often that your profile is almost always waiting for approval.
You should be able to complete the 6 sections of the “About Me” profile area in under 10 minutes. Take your time and be honest with yourself and those that will read your profile, because honesty counts.
When you’re done with this part of today’s Match.com Marathon click on the “search” button and take a look at some of the people waiting to meet you.
Click here for a 7 day free trial membership.
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
ThursdayI’m not the type of person that would lie to you to make you happy. Your happiness vs. the truth? The truth wins out every time.
Sure, I’ve been called insensitive, but does sensitivity really go so far as to let a person live in the very true unreality they are in?
You’re right, it doesn’t.
I will back your play, as long as you’re good to go with the very real truth that life is hard. Life is not about living lies, it’s about living life to it’s fullest and it’s most potential.
I am asking you to believe me, because I have no reason to lie to you.
Use online dating to it’s fullest and you might just find it is about you, and the real truth that can become the next chapter of your life, a person in love.
You need to take that first step, find a dating service and post your profile. And to get the attention you honestly deserve, lead off with this headline:
“I will never be so happy as the day I met you!”
Have a great day!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Sometimes, especially Fridays, you have to “put yourself out there”.
Being honest in your headline profile is a great way to draw attention to the TRUTH you want in dating online, finding that “special person” to complete your life.
So today, let’s change our headline to:
“I am ready to meet you… hopefully you are out there”
Honest and completely truthful. No questions about what/who you are looking for… The One.
Good luck!