How to reply to an online personal ad
It’s a truism that your first impression is the most important one. This truth is the same for face-to-face meetings and your first email to a posted personal ad.
If you don’t capture the reader’s interest you just might not get a reply, no matter how much interest you have for the other person. (BTW, it’s quite rude to email someone more than twice before they reply to you, if they do at all. Keep your emails at least 3 days apart too.) Here are three things you need to know about replying to someone’s online profile.
1. What you should say is “Hi. I read your profile and I hope you’ll check mine out too”
2. You could say something funny like “I’m going to fire my psychic if you don’t email me back” and add a smiley wink 
3. Share a hobby you have and explain in less than twenty words why you like that particular hobby. For instance, I collect stamps so I would say “My hobby of stamp collecting keeps me busy counting pennies nickels and dimes and is rarely finger licking good”.
Bonuses:
- if your dating service has voice messaging, leave a message that is specifically for that person and keep it up for a day or less (don’t keep it up longer, voice messages usually are not private)
- tell a joke, a clean joke, “knock knock” jokes are great to encourage several messages back and forth, just start off with “Knock Knock…”
- be a critic and discuss why you like/didn’t like a movie you recently saw, a book you read, a game you played, that coincides with what the person has in their profile
Things not to do:
- don’t ‘photoshop’ your images together to make it look like you’re a couple already
- tell the person that “I prefer the right side of the bed”
- send graphic pictures of yourself, even if you’re a member of an adult dating service, keep your pictures to the point of what you would want any stranger to see (within semi-nude limits) and recognize you on the street from
How to email a possible date
While The Frisky’s article on the subject of emailing a date has some good information, I think that things should be expanded on.When emailing a date the important thing to remember is that this is not an immediate action. You cannot know if the email will be read right away or it will sit and wait in the inbox to see the light of day.
Keep your email to the point, after all, an email should never be a substitute for a face-to-face conversation.
Be curious about the person, it’s ok to ask a question or two, as long as they aren’t overly personal.
Talk about yourself a bit, as if someone were watching you, what would they think of you and what you did today?
Just don’t drag on talking about yourself… again, keep your one-sided conversation interesting but short.
And then click send and wait for a reply….
Successful Online Dating Emails
Robert
And let’s get another thing straight, if your first email to someone is crappy, you’re crappy by association and you won’t get the opportunity to meet the person you’ve emailed.
Sound sensible?
Yes, I know it does.
So, when you’re writing your very first email to someone you’ve got to have some class… you’ve got to have something that makes you stand out from the rest of the guys, or girls, on the dating site that may also be emailing the person you have your eyes set upon.
For a great first email I want you to concentrate on one thing that stands out from the other person’s profile, the one thing that attracted them to you.
Was it their sense of humor? Their sense of style? Or just a “feeling” that you’d really like to understand the person more, to listen to them talk and understand what makes them the great person you hope them to be.
Honesty always works best in your first email to someone, but keep it short, keep it about that one thing of attraction, and don’t be afraid to immediately ask for a coffee date to meet. They may reply that they don’t go on dates right away and that’s fine… you’ve started the contact and conversation, go where it now leads you.
Good luck!
Extra help for women is here, and for men is here.
