Dine and Ditch: First Dates in the News
Devin Norling And Sydney Sanders, Florida Couple, Arrested On First Date. Huffington Post
First dates can be awkward, so it’s good to find common interests, like long walks on the beach or petty crime. Florida police arrested two teenagers last week for allegedly attempting a “dine-and-ditch” after the couple enjoyed their first date. …
5 Reasons To Get Some Action On The First Date. YourTango
Why activity dates rock, and you should date someone with whom you have common interests. By Natalie Gontcharova This may reveal me as a complete dork to the Internet, but on our first date, my boyfriend and I played Scrabble, and ended up playing …
First Date on a Coupon: Dating in the News
Nearly One-in-Five U.S. Adults Report That They Have Used a Coupon On a First Date. PR Newswire (press release)
With Sweetest Day just around the corner, dating plans are flying around as much as fall leaves. However, the current state of the economy makes affording extravagant dates more challenging. A first date is awkward enough, but a new element has been …
Do you believe in monogamy? Atlanta Journal Constitution (blog) By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
Yes, I believe in monogamy. Yes, my partner must also believe in monogamy. I will not date a person that is not monogamous. It’s one of the first things I would ask when I was interested in dating …
First Date News for Online Daters
Men spend more on first date grooming than women. AOL Lifestyle UK
It appears men are so preoccupied with looking good on a first date that they now spend more on grooming products than women. According to figures released by dating website match.com, single men think nothing of spending almost a third more than women on …
My husband Cary Grant force-fed me LSD and it nearly killed me. Daily Mail By Dyan Cannon
My first dinner-date at Cary Grant’s home in Beverly Hills turned out to be as surprising as it was romantic. On that balmy night in 1962, I was 25, an innocent young actress trying to work her way up in Hollywood. …
Mitchell Gross: Author ‘duped Jewish dating website women out of $4.4m’. Daily Mail By AP
An author of legal thrillers and a fantasy trilogy was accused Thursday of bilking women out of millions of dollars after meeting them through an online Jewish dating service. Mitchell Gross, whose books include the suspense story ‘Circle of Lies …
Sexual Attraction: Dating in the News
Ask Amy: Date wants to pick up the (background) check. Washington Post
DEAR AMY: I recently created an online profile on two online dating sites after friends convinced me that these sites are great ways to meet guys in my area. But I am scared to meet these strangers. I want to know if I can trust my potential date, …
Susan Swarbrick Save our dating nerves. Herald Scotland
I’ve been out of the dating loop for a few years now, but surely first date nerves are a good thing? That glorious, spine-tingling sensation where it feels every nerve ending is ablaze and you fear your heart is beating so loudly it can be heard by …
Dating Guide For Men – How To Get Beyond Friends And Become Lovers With A Woman. Tom Wilt News
If you want to be sure of that, you have to trigger sexual attraction with a woman, or else, say hello to the friend zone and frustration! Want to know how you can get your free dating guide for men and discover the quickest way to go from friends to …
Diary of a single girl. Times of India
Have you ever registered on a dating site? Last night, I couldn’t sleep and for the heck of it, I decided to explore the mysterious world of dating websites. What can I say, I have a taste for the ridiculous. I was curious to see what the virtual world …
Sex on the first date?
Love at first sex?
Really, (now, remember, this is my opinion and you can feel free to disagree) but sex on the first date does not make a solid ground for a stable relationship.
Sex on the first date is entertaining entertainment. Plain and simple.
Women may believe that there can be a “special connection” that makes sex a forward move into a larger picture of a relationship… but it doesn’t. Not on the first date, certainly.
For some “couples” there may be a heavy price to this date climax, an unplanned pregnancy, that should have been protected against, big time. Never mind protections against STDs and other sex related dangers.
But you don’t need me to point that out, right?
Emotions can run high, for men and women, when intercourse becomes a very involved part of what could be a budding relationship. First date sex can raise the stress levels of attraction and rejection quickly.
Sex also raises the bar for the levels that are reached during the beginning stages of any relationship: will sex get better or worse? Will there be sex every date or is was the first date sex just a stepping stone to more sex later in the dating cycle, after a “dry” period?
To summarize, if you’re looking for a fling then go as fast and as far as you want, if you’re looking for a future then you’ll want to play the sex and dating game a little slower.
The First Date Drive: 3 Things You Need To Know
There is going to be opportunity
Everything from what to wear, where to go and what to say has been explained, tweaked and analysed ad naseum.
Very little, however, has been written about getting there and then going home again.
Someone has to drive, whether it’s your car, their car, a taxi, a limo, or a subway.
At some point in the travels, when together, there is going to be the “opportunity” for contact. What should you do?
Here are the three things I need you to know about cars and first dates:
1) Keep it clean. If you have three seconds to clean your car out, and it really needs it, then it’s already too late. You should have cleaned it yesterday.
2) No contact allowed. Whether driving, riding or just hanging on for dear life, no contact is allowed, either above or below the shoulders. This is very important.
3) Stay within the driving laws. “The Fast & The Furious” might be your favorite movie but let’s face it, arriving home safely and without a speeding ticket, rates very high when the date is discussed the next day.
And remember (not to put any pressure on you or anything), your first date is when the door either opens or closes on any continuing relationship. Be cool.
How to have a coffee date
Your first meeting with someone new should be a coffee date, here’s why:When you make the first date, it’s obvious that no matter how much you have talked with the person through email, instant messenger, skype, phone, you really don’t know much about how they are “in person”.
And I’ve heard all the “I met my soulmate” stories and a lot of them fall apart after the first meeting, leading to very hurtful and awkward feelings later.
My rule is that you don’t really know the person until you’re close enough to smell them.
So your first meeting should be an afternoon date, set to last no longer than 30 minutes.
The date should be in a public place, a coffee shop, donut shop, places that do not serve alcohol and that are not in any hotel restaurant or bar that you or the person you’re meeting is staying in. You don’t want to feel pressured into anything or drinking alcohol that will affect your decision making.
You should have a friend at the ready to either ‘shadow you’ or call you at the thirty minute mark to help you end the date.
You can always extend the date but you should not feel pressure to do that and you should feel safe enough to walk away from the date at any time.
Most people decide within the first minute or two whether what they thought of the person is the same of what they think of them when they meet face-to-face.
Remember to have fun and to decide on the second date, should you have one, the things you really want to do with the person.
Successful Online Dating Emails
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And let’s get another thing straight, if your first email to someone is crappy, you’re crappy by association and you won’t get the opportunity to meet the person you’ve emailed.
Sound sensible?
Yes, I know it does.
So, when you’re writing your very first email to someone you’ve got to have some class… you’ve got to have something that makes you stand out from the rest of the guys, or girls, on the dating site that may also be emailing the person you have your eyes set upon.
For a great first email I want you to concentrate on one thing that stands out from the other person’s profile, the one thing that attracted them to you.
Was it their sense of humor? Their sense of style? Or just a “feeling” that you’d really like to understand the person more, to listen to them talk and understand what makes them the great person you hope them to be.
Honesty always works best in your first email to someone, but keep it short, keep it about that one thing of attraction, and don’t be afraid to immediately ask for a coffee date to meet. They may reply that they don’t go on dates right away and that’s fine… you’ve started the contact and conversation, go where it now leads you.
Good luck!
