The 4 Sure Signs Of Confidence That Women Look For In A Man By David DeAngelo
Author of best-selling eBook and free “Dating Secrets” newsletter
I’ve said it a bazillion times… great women don’t see a man as potential “relationship material” based on his looks, money, or cheesy pick-up lines.
When it comes to figuring out if a particular guy might be “Mr. Right,” the first thing most women look for are sure signs of CONFIDENCE. More specifically, the 4 unmistakable, magnetic signals that confident men send a woman the moment they meet her.
Naturally, a man doesn’t need to show them all to get the attention of a great woman… but if he manages to show her just a few, chances drastically increase that she’ll start “feeling it” for him.
So, without further delay, here come the 4 sure signs of confidence that every great woman looks for in a man:
1) An “Easy-Going” Attitude
Listen… “easy-going” does NOT mean being so laid back when you first meet a woman that you’re practically asleep. It also doesn’t mean putting up with any kind of rude or inappropriate behavior.
It means handling the opinions, pressures, and attitudes of others with grace, and coming across as comfortable in your own skin. Even your body language communicates it… a confident man will literally, physically “lay back,” leaning back while keeping his body open and facing forward when conversing.
A confident “real man” also doesn’t obsess about what other people think or do. He doesn’t take it as an insult if someone doesn’t like him, or disagrees with him. Above all, he isn’t needy, clingy, and always trying to be the center of attention.
Basically, this “easy-going” attitude signals a woman that a man is the leader of his own life… everyone else do what they may.
2) He’s “Put Together”
It’s true, a woman will never decide that a man might be “Mr. Right” just because he looks like Brad Pitt… but rest assured she’ll INSTANTLY RULE HIM OUT if he doesn’t look “right”… caring about himself enough to attend to the basics of appearance which communicate a positive, healthy self-image.
Again, this doesn’t mean that a man has to buy trendy clothes… wear a “scent”… or look like an obsessive gym rat.
It DOES mean that he needs to master the basics of good grooming and hygiene. Because, if a man doesn’t have it together enough to attend to his own needs, a quality woman knows right away that there’s NO WAY he can possibly attend to hers.
By the way… this also means being savvy enough to avoid “extremes” in appearance. When first meeting a woman, I recommend dressing neutrally and neatly, neither coming across as a stuffy “suit” or a sandal hound.
Finally: coming across as “put together” means communicating confidence about who you are on the INSIDE as well. You can do it by being able to carry on an interesting conversation about music… food… culture… whatever. Becoming a good conversationalist is a sure sign that you have it all together… that you’re in a healthy, curious, CONFIDENT state of mind.
3) He’s Humble
This is a big one…
Like I always say, any “jerk” can act cocky with a woman… but coming across as CONFIDENT requires something else: the ability to control what you say and do so that you never come across as “above” anyone else.
Sure, a man can act cocky… as long as he’s makes sure that it’s FUNNY (since arrogance without humor equals “jerk” every time). A truly confident man makes fun of HIMSELF above all others, and never “nitpicks” or tries to hurt another person’s feelings.
For example, it’s okay to look across the room at some other guy and say something cocky like, “Look at that guy’s facial hair… I think 1975 wants it back.” But ONLY if he’s HUMBLE enough to add a comment like, “Believe me, I know… mine was just like it.”
4) He Has A Sense of Humor
File this one under “No-Brainer”… a great sense of humor is the most instant, obvious, magnetic force that makes a woman sense a man’s CONFIDENCE… and therefore feel the first sparks of ATTRACTION for him.
That’s why I suggest that guys do whatever they can to cultivate a “comic sensibility”, even it means just reading a few books about the theory and structure of comedy and timing.
I also recommend checking out cutting-edge humor sites like “Funny Or Die” and “The Onion,” or just watching Saturday Night live to understand what’s hip and funny TODAY… because it’s all guaranteed to change and become “lame” TOMORROW.
Add it all up, and the message is clear:
While most men waste time trying to impress women by acting “tough” or “dominant,”… the signs of confidence great women look for are much more subtle… and MUCH more easily achieved.
By focusing on “broadcasting” the four TRUE signs of magnetic “real-man” confidence… the kind of women you want to meet will start sensing that YOU just might be “Mr. Right.”
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How cats influence relationships: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
I have recently had the opportunity to briefly observe a couple of young couples as they walked into their apartment building.
One day I saw this young man walking in and he was carrying two bags of groceries in one hand and a huge plastic pail of kitty litter in the other.
Another day I saw a different young man leaving the building with his girlfriend and she was talking to their cat that was on the balcony, saying her goodbyes and whatnot.
Now, the building that I am in is a small three floor apartment building (I of course, live on the 3rd floor and there is no elevator) so it’s easy to see the same people over and over. People really are creatures of habit.
But what struck me was that both of these young couples have cats. Now, I’m really not a cat person so I won’t be getting a cat any time soon and dogs aren’t allowed so that avenue of pet partnership won’t happen either. But, when possible, it seems to me, that young couples get a cat when they can.
I’m a bit of a betting man so I’d wager that it isn’t the guy in the relationship making the initial decision to get a cat. So it’s has to be her decision, right?
Now, I could be totally out of line here but when I look at the equation something just doesn’t seem right:
Girlfriend + boyfriend + cat = happy relationship.
Now, even a dog person such as myself has a little experience with cats. Finicky isn’t the only word beginning with F that I’d use to describe a cat. They’re mean creatures that think only of themselves and only come close to you when either feeding them, giving them treats, or doing something they want you to do all the while paying little to no attention to you when you want something from them. Cats always are more agreeable when you bribe them with something they like.
Let’s take a step back and go over how it is a guy and a girl come to the decision to live together.
Now, I will warn you, I can provide in-depth analysis of the guy’s point of view and why he would want to move in together with a girl. For the girl’s motives I cannot suggest too much, women are as inscrutable to me as cats are.
My in-depth analysis of the guy’s reasons to move in together with his girlfriend is that he’s horny and thinks he’ll have easier access to regular sex if they move in together.
The girlfriend, on the other hand, knows that she has the boyfriend under her control when he asks her to move in with him and once the move-in is completed the love nest becomes a “who’s in control?” test and the girlfriend ultimately wins this test because (you know what I’m going to say here) she can either give, or not give him, sex.
Now, when the power of having complete control over the boyfriend is realized by the girlfriend she, being the young girl she is, becomes insane with power. She becomes demanding and her hunger for power now goes beyond the home they share.
Generally, and hopefully, her new power and control abilities don’t go far with friends or co-workers because she isn’t having sex with them.
But the girlfriend has made a major realization of what she is capable of because she has this poor sap of a boyfriend under her thumb, doing whatever she wants him to do in the hopes that he’ll get sex for his successful completion of any task she presents to him.
Now, like any newly minted super-hero the girlfriend has to use these powers or lose them and she has to exercise the powers so she can fully understand what they will and will not allow her to do. After all, Spiderman doesn’t try to stop bullets, he jumps aside using his spidey-sense letting the bullet whiz past him hitting something safely in the background.
The boyfriend is now under her complete control and the girlfriend needs to have someone/something else to test the limit of her super powers. And when you live in an apartment building where the only allowable pets are cats, you get a cat. That’s what you do.
Maybe the boyfriend doesn’t want a cat (he might not want the competition for her attention) but I’m sure the girlfriend will use whatever super powers at her disposal to convince him having a cat is a good idea. Ick.
When the girlfriend does get her cat, sorry, when the couple get’s their cat, life is good again. And our wussy boyfriend might get some “happy sex” for a few days.
But, depending on the cat’s temperament, the girlfriend’s super powers may initially allow her to call the kitty, play when she wants to play with the kitty, but sooner or later the cat realizes that he’s not in charge and his temperament changes more towards the aloof end of the human/cat relationship yardstick.
And the girlfriend realizes that she’s not in charge of the cat. The cat is a cat and will do as cats will do: what they please, when they please (which really means eat, sleep and mess up the kitty litter as needed).
So we can explain this human/human/cat “threesome” relationship into:
- cat does what it wants, when it wants, ignoring boyfriend and girlfriend as it sees fit
- boyfriend, now effectively controlled by the girlfriend, less time with buddies, maybe even turning over his paycheck and receiving an allowance (I do find it amazing how many young guys are put on an “allowance” by their live-in girlfriends)
- girlfriend has a guy that will do what she wants and when and a cat that only proves the boyfriend really is under her control and the cat is a test experience of her super powers that failed
To sum up:
Guys, you need to either grow a new set of balls or have the ones your girlfriend is wearing around her neck surgically re-attached. Being a wussy in a relationship does not make the relationship work, or will it be any better with you agreeing with everything she wants to have and do. It just proves you don’t know what you’re doing other than trying to get laid regularly and that your girlfriend is right when she thinks she’s always right. $20.00 is what the first step to a cure will cost you, a discrete ebook download and a few minutes reading each day (and although the ebook is generally a pick-up guide for guys) there is information within that will help you re-exert your manly control in your relationship and reconstruct your relationship if it has a chance to be long lasting and you still love her. Or prepare yourself for a fresh start in a new relationship.
Girls, good for you. You’ve managed to lay down the law and provide your man with a set of rules that will enforce your position as the queen of the household and making him understand that you are in control of your relationship with him. Sadly though, you are re-arranging deck chairs on the Titanic. Once you become over-controlling and the fighting starts, you’ve lost him. But it doesn’t have to be this way. You can listen and read what Rori Raye has to say about creating and maintaining a healthy relationship.
I congratulate you on reaching the end of this very long article. My personal ad headline suggestion for you is this:
“Cat or dog?”
Have a great day!
Should You Call Her The Next Day?
Should You Call Her The Next Day?
There are several rules for guys that are used when you meet a great women, have a fun night together, you really like her and then what do you do?
I prefer that you can call the next day, just to say that you had a great time last night, she looked awesome, can I call later this week so we can get together again? This approach generates more successful second dates that the other dating rules you might know.
Another rule is that you wait three days before calling her to set up another date. This delay tactic is supposed to generate a stronger attraction for you but can often backfire in frustration by your possible date because she has wondered too long about why you didn’t call her. A lot of potential negative reasons go through her mind at by the time you do call her she’s so frustarted by your lack of communication that she’s already given up on you, even if she did feel a strong attraction for you.
The last popular “should you call her rule” is to wait for her to call you. This is not good at all. Even if you preclude the possibilities that she lost your number and a hundred other negative concerns, if you leave the phone call up to her you may never know why she didn’t call you. And, of course, she might have been waiting for you to call her.
Another couple of things to remember:
- don’t text message her, she wants to hear your voice to re-experience the strong attraction she has for you;
- emails are equally bad, they don’t communicate the emotion you both may feel which becomes a negative feeling sooner;
- Don’t have along phone call, it’s too interrupting to the attraction she may feel, plus you may say something stupid or talk about things that she’s not interested about, and again you create a positive attraction into a neutral or negative feeling for you.
The first rule is the best, keep the call short, sweet, to the point, have a plan of a possible next date (but don’t mention it, this will be your next call to her in a daye or two) and know that you’ve done your best to make her attracted to you.
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Changes: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Time for changes to your strategies?
Tell me honestly, does all this “fat people” controversy reach you? I mean, with so many heavy people in our part of the world has this news made you change the way you eat? Do you opt for smaller portions when you go out to eat or do you get as much on your plate, or in the takeout bag, as you possibly can?
Personally, I’m fighting the middle-age-spread. All of a sudden my waist has swollen up but when I look back my eating habits haven’t really changed. I’ve just been working at a new job for the last 18 months where I sit all day, rather than my previous retail job that had me on my feet for 8 hours.
Does this mean I need a diet (no more food-truck foods) or just more exercise. Or both? Obviously I need to talk to a professional first. I’ll make a doctor’s appointment and let him guide me into the first steps, before I change my diet. And I’m sure that once the weather warms up going for a walk wouldn’t be such a bad idea either.
I think the point I’m trying to make is that you should seek professional opinion before you make major changes to your life.
In the dating arena I have two great people ready to offer you very sound advice for the time when you decide that a change has to be made to your dating and relationship strategies.
For men, please meet David Deangelo.
For women, please meet Christian Carter.
These two men are quite well known for offering sage advice about dating and relationships and if you find yourself unsure, then lean on one of them for professional help.
Today’s headline for your online dating profile is this:
“The first step is always the most nervous one.”
Have a great day!
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