Passionless

Married people often need to have some “special time” together, even if they decide to call it a “date”, or, as seems fashionable of late a “date night”.

(Hell, you’re married, it’s likely that if you have kids… if you have a date night together at any other time it’s called a ‘nooner’… oops, single people can have those too, forget I opened up these parenthesis).

But, let’s try to stay on this current topic… a “passionless” relationship doesn’t have to be something an old married couple experiences. Or even an unmarried living together couple has to endure, of course and again, to add substance to this one-way dialogue, “passionless” is what one half of the couple experiences, the other half is generally clueless.

Passionless can be described as when one person’s needs are not met by the other. Simple.

The real issue get’s to boil once it is realized that when your soulmate seems to no longer be interested in you, sexually or romantically, you wonder if it’s something you’ve done to encourage this passionless behavior.

It does sting! And it does chaff…

I always ask the person, is there more you could do to encourage romanticism in your relationship?

It’s a tiresome line but have you looked inward before blaming this “perceived” problem outward?

My own relationship, now in it’s 12th year (almost 10 yrs married), has had it’s ups, downs and all-arounds. But I have realized, much to my chagrin, that often the blame lies on my shoulders and not hers.

Sex is great but being romantic is a 24/7 type of thing. It’s a life you life not a moment realized.

Get it?

You can email me when you need help with your passionless relationship, your loveless partner (narcissistic, paranoid and schizophrenic included), but I want you to first take a moment and write down a list of why you feel this way, why your husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend makes you feel this way about your relationship.

Then, if there is nothing on the list you couldn’t change about yourself, email me.

I will listen and do my best to advise you.

I promise.

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