Hello’s: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Sunday
Deep down we’re all the same, women and men.
We have the same needs, just different ways to communicate those needs.
Sometimes we don’t have the right words to say so we say nothing at all. That is very wrong.
It’s better to mumble a “Hello” and then quickly follow with “Excuse me, I have a toothache, I meant to say ‘Hello’” than to let the opportunity to communicate with someone that attracts you simply pass wordlessly by.
Many online dating service sallow you to send virtual gifts to someone to introduce yourself and I say put this feature to use.
I read a survey a while back that concluded almost 75% of men would like to receive flowers because of the intimacy of the gift and they would appreciate the gesture the same as would most women.
Today use the idea of a gift drive your efforts at meeting someone new online today and use this headline to get started:
“Is a Hello enough to get your attention?”
Have a great day!
Romance: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Our romantic evening.
Does your version of romance match the person you’re dating?
(Take our ‘How romantic are you?’ quiz.)
I know from personal experience that I’m often in left field when romance strikes.
Being romantic should never be forced, it should be as natural a situation as that first kiss and if you can hold onto that moment, you’ll always be “romance ready“.
Romance brings people together and the lack of romance drives them apart. More than financial stress or other events that occupy your mind at all hours, romance will reduce the stress you feel and make other pressures take a step back from your daily struggles.
For your headline today I’d like you to imagine a romantic moment and use the first 7 words as your headline and continued at the top of your profile in the “About me” section, like this:
“I will start by lighting candles and…” (now on your profile page) “… have prepared a bottle of wine and some chocolate truffles to start a wonderful evening.”
Have a great day!
Dating Game: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Friday
There is an old story about a man and the adversary he faced, a whale. This article is not anything like that.
The power of life-changing moments are all in your hands, so I suggest you do not let these moments pass you by.
To get a head start on the dating game you’ll be playing this weekend here’s a headline for you to post to your personal ad:
“Just by logging in you have become a player in The Dating Game, and it’s your turn!”
Have a great day!
Dating Experience: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Thursday
Does your experience with dating matter?
I mean, the more dates you go on with different individuals does that make you more experienced with dating, for the better or for the worse?
I can never figure that one out, no matter how many people ask me questions about the subject.
I think that maybe dating experience can help you with learning how not to judge people.
I mean, it’s suggested that people take about 0.8 seconds to instinctively decide what type of person someone is with their “fight or flight” instinct. That’s pretty close to an immediate judgement about how someone thinks you’re a danger or not.
Eventually, if you have dated a lot of different people, you might be able to read their reaction to you and decide on your next moves.
That’s the experience part.
The instinct part keeps you safe but also keeps you wary and when that wariness lowers is when you have decided that, on some level, that the other person is not your enemy, and not a threat, so you loosen up a bit and display more of your real personality. This could happen all during the first date or over the first few dates.
Then the dating part comes in and you have to decide if this person is “The One” or at least the best opportunity for a sincere, long term relationship with someone or else it’s back to the dating pool.
Life is hard but you hold the hammer.
Today’s headline suggestion for your online personal ad is this:
“How many dates does it take?”
Have a great day!
Headlines: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Wednesday
I’ve been hanging out a lot at www.Perfectmatch.com to see what changes, if any, they’ve made since my last really good look at the service.
I have to admit, with one exception, I do like what I see there.
The drawback I find is that they actually don’t have a headline to lead off your dating profile. In the thousands of online dating services that I have visited (some removed, many just avoided speaking ill of) I can’t ever think of one that didn’t put your headline front and center.
At Perfectmatch.com your headline is hidden on a tab called “In my own words”, so if you’re looking for a place to write in one of my headline suggestions, then that’s the place.
My dating profile headline suggestion for you, in my own words, is this:
” I’ll be here, will you be joining me? “
Have a great day!
Garden of Dating: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Choking off the dream?
This is the week that spring really starts. For some with gardens and with the obvious “green thumb” they’ve been busy buying and planting their flowers, shrubs and other pollen creators to add color to their “humble abodes” and can now start to appreciate their work.
Then the are others, like me, that do have a humble abode, with a front and back yard, that simply wait for the boss’s teen to come and earn some money by mowing and clipping until my heart is content - and as far as the yard goes it doesn’t take much - and his job is done. And I can stay inside knowing that my neighbors no longer hate me as much for an unkempt yard.
Yes, spring is hard. I would like to say it’s even harder for condo and apartment dwellers but never having been on that side of the road I just don’t have any experience to decide if it’s a good thing or a bad thing, living in a big building with little green-space and possibly the desire to still grow green and colorful things.
Online dating, believe me, is the green-space of your life.
Either you take control and allow only the beautiful plants to inhabit your space, or you give up and let the weeds run rampant, crowding out the beauty, choking off the dream of a pure green-space of your own, that used to be under your control.
Online dating is the only place where you are in complete control of the messages you send, of understanding, generally in-depth, the person you’re going to email by reading all they wanted to share on their own profiles before you even commit to a single alphabet character being sent their way.
Online dating is your green garden, waiting for the right mix of color and durability for what you pant there. Waiting for the mix of light and darkness to be right to provide the correct growing conditions.
It’s all up to you.
For your headline today I suggest this:
“What is your mix of sun and shade?”
Have a great day!
Doing: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Monday
“What do you do?”
This simple question can be interpreted many different ways and has many right and different answers.
Psychologists and psychiatrists love this question because the first answer is usually the defensive one, which helps to define the boundaries of achievement and loss, friendships and broken hearts. Think about it.
Within the confines of online dating “What do you do?” is answered with a short paragraph about your career/job. Not about how you bring excitement to the bedroom and not what you do when you find a quarter on the sidewalk.
For your dating profile headline today let’s go for it and post this:
“What do you do?” ; and see what type of answer you get.
Have a great day!
The Good Person Inside: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Give in to meditation today.
We all have a very good person inside of us. Some call it a “sub-conscious referee”, that little voice in our head that tells us right from wrong.
That little voice is what tells us how to properly act and react to the events that swirl around us. Listening to that voice is what keeps us sane.
But do you still hear that little voice? Or is it buried under the everyday lies we tell ourselves?
It’s easy to become uninvolved with our own life, to just let whatever happens happen and blame some universal force for the wrongs in our lives.
But that isn’t healthy and it isn’t real. Taking responsibility for what happens in our lives allows that little voice to speak louder and with greater concern for our well-being.
Today give yourself some time to meditate and listen to that voice of reason, give time to let yourself find harmony with the truth and the right in your world. You’ll have a great week ahead if you allow yourself to listen.
For your dating profile headline today I suggest this:
“Can I find you on the straight and narrow?”
Have a great day!
Fantasy Lover: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
How sensual are you?
Do you have a fantasy lover?
Having a fantasy lover can be very fulfilling, allowing yourself to get sensual and excited and if you take the extra time to understand what makes your fantasy lover so good at what they do you’ll find that you have those same deeply sensual feelings available to share with the lover you have, or will have, in real life.
Many people shut off the fantasy or don’t allow themselves to experience this sensual side of themselves because they repress these very same emotions.
This weekend you should take 10 or 30 minutes to meditate. Just relax with easy deep breathing… in… out… and free yourself of the thoughts of the day.
Allow yourself to wander into that sensual place where your fantasy lover can be found… in… out… easy deep breathing.
Feel their touch on your skin, their own emotions of love and sexuality that only a fantasy lover can share with you.
Keep breathing deeply… in… out.
When your meditation is done write down the emotions that you shared with your fantasy lover. If you can, include how and where you were touched. If there was a song playing in the background include that in your remembering of the experience.
By visiting your fantasy lover you can begin to understand the deep sensual side that is inside you, waiting to be experienced with a real person. Hold onto those memories as you date people.
When you understand what you deeply want in a relationship you begin to have the ability to make it happen.
For your new personal ad headline today I suggest this:
“Do you have a fantasy lover?”
Have a great day!
More about this meditation exercise can be found in the ebook “Have The Relationship You Want” by Rori Raye.
Do You Believe In Magic?: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Wednesday
Do you believe in magic?
Not the witches and warlocks type, but the very entertaining stage type of music?
I think that when we can enjoy something that seems unbelievable, when we can suspend logic for a few moments and be enjoyed with a man walking through walls, a woman being cut in half and all the other astonishing magic tricks, that we have truly comfortable moments inside our ow skins.
Magic gives us pause from the ordinary and introduces us to the extraordinary, where we are a part of the magic but not it’s center of attention.
We can turn to the people around us and wonder how the trick was done, we can share something within our seatmates and not be subject to personal appearance or personality rules because those have been suspended along with our logic, at least temporarily.
It’s this state of freedom you need to have when talking with new people you meet. Freedom from what would normally hold you back from speaking, freedom from your usual inhibitions and self-consciousness.
When you introduce yourself to new people today, ask them what their favorite magic trick is and find that common ground to be a part of within the small group you find yourself within.
For your headline today I suggest:
“Do you believe in magic?”
Have a great day!
Completing Your Mission: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Tuesday
On Sunday it was revealed that the terror leader Osama bin Laden was killed by US Military. The head has been cut off the snake, let’s hope the snake dies a quick death as well.
On to the business at hand:
Dating at it’s most primal level is a matter of conquer and submission. Man conquers and women submit.
Yes, I know, it’s chauvinistic and out of date. Surprisingly enough though, it’s only been “chauvinistic” for about 30 years and out of date since only the later half of the 19th century.
For the majority of human history the fact of male/female interactions has simply been arranged marriages, or conquering.
Is it any wonder that dating advice for guys is so randomized (with one exception in my humble opinion
) and for women, only exerting their uniqueness for about 50 years now, are now discovering how to go beyond manipulation to actually understanding the male mind and finding the guys they really like and that are good for them too.
Yes, it’s an upside-down world where we really are just finding out about men and women being together in a somewhat equal relationship.
Yes, I know, it’s tough. But this mission can be completed if you put the time into it. Time and effort solves most problems, trust me.
Have I ever lied to you before? No, of course not.
For your dating profile headline today I suggest this:
“I need a partner to complete my mission, are you up to it?”
Have a great day!
Honesty in Dating: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Monday
Today is a game-changer for everything we do from this point onwards. Life will never be the same.
As opposed to the “infinite universe theory” where there are an infinite number of this world, of you, and all possibilities are played out to their conclusion, in this universe you have but one choice, one change in your path, that takes you to the next choice and the next change in your path.
There are no “do-overs”, no second chances.
You may think that everything happens for a reason but that is the coward’s way out. You create your own destiny, your own future. How you get “there” from “here” is entirely up to you.
Dating online does offer you plenty of opportunities to make big changes to your life, not the least of which goes with becoming one half of a couple instead of a single person.
Every decision leads to another and another and I can tell you that the more honesty that goes into your decisions and that your decisions are based on, will greatly increase the success you receive.
Today put one foot in front of the other and live your life well.
For your personal ad headline today I suggest:
“I am usually the leader but it would be wonderful to be your co-pilot.”
Have a great day!
Attractive Women: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
SundayFor your dating profile you were asked many questions. If one of the answers was that you only want to date “attractive women” I would ask you why you would set your goal on such a personal and subjective answer.
After all, what is beautiful to one person may not be to another. She may be a “ten” from the neck down but be a “six” from the neck up, how would that affect your choice of simply emailing her or not?
I don’t need to remind you that real beauty is on the inside but I will tell you that looks are only skin deep and you never really know someone until you’re close enough to smell them.
Judgements of looks, beauty and personality should not be made hastily. That is one issue I have with online dating is that you have so many “potential dates” that you might just skip over the women (or men) that really will be a lot of fun and a lot more compatible that someone you judge to be “good enough to date” based on a photo or two.
Today I want you to go a little slower as you view the members of your dating service seeking dates. If you come across a profile of someone that is one you’d usually just skip over, take the 2 minutes you’ll need to visit the profile and do some reading. I can promise you that you’ll be surprising yourself with what you find.
For your personal ad headline today I suggest using this:
“Has Spring added some bounce to your step?”
Have a great day!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Saturday
When you peer into your future what do you see?
Is there a picture that comes into view? Do you see a successful career and loving family? Do you see a sun rising over the horizon? Do you see chaos? Is there anything at all that comes into view?
This weekend is a good time to start putting your future into focus.
If you can’t make a target for the next five years, can you make a goal for the next Saturday at least?
We can all plan the small things and complete them successfully and occasionally we can make a large goal and achieve it but to have an overall goal that combines many aspects of our lives is usually not possible and we find ourselves floating in a boat in the sea of life, drifting along until we land at an island and struggle ashore and then try to integrate into the society we find there.
Life is strange this way.
What we plan doesn’t happen and the unexpected becomes our life.
So I guess my real question is “When you peer into the future do you expect what you see to really happen?”
My dating profile headline suggestion for you today is this:
“In your world do our futures merge?”
Have a great day!
Instinct: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Friday
The weekend is upon us, not the honeymoon that is anticipated after the Royal Wedding, but we will participate in a simple weekend of our own design.
I myself will be people watching, one of my favorite pastimes, creating stories woven into the slight interaction as the people become a part of my world, if only for a second or two.
At our heart we are all people watchers. The instinct to see if we immediately belong to the group that that person is a part of, to see if we can co-exist, maybe even become friends, is a part of our instinct, a cog in our “fight or flight” ancestral behavior.
Online dating overrides this very basic part of us, this is why the first meeting is filled with more dread than most. Throughout the search and the following conversational messages as you get to know the person, try as you might you can’t fully understand their “being” until you’re close enough to smell them, to hear their accent, to shake their hand, touching them.
Taking the bold step forward of meeting your date online and converting the online aspect to a real date is what online dating is all about. This also adds a new required basic instinct of trusting the words that are written by a stranger for other strangers.
How good are your interpretation skills?
Today’s dating profile headline is this:
“I will read your words and hope to hear your voice.”
Have a great day!
