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It’s a truism that your first impression is the most important one. This truth is the same for face-to-face meetings and your first email to a posted personal ad.

If you don’t capture the reader’s interest you just might not get a reply, no matter how much interest you have for the other person. (BTW, it’s quite rude to email someone more than twice before they reply to you, if they do at all. Keep your emails at least 3 days apart too.) Here are three things you need to know about replying to someone’s online profile.

1. What you should say is “Hi. I read your profile and I hope you’ll check mine out too”

2. You could say something funny like “I’m going to fire my psychic if you don’t email me back” and add a smiley wink

3. Share a hobby you have and explain in less than twenty words why you like that particular hobby. For instance, I collect stamps so I would say “My hobby of stamp collecting keeps me busy counting pennies nickels and dimes and is rarely finger licking good”.

Bonuses:
- if your dating service has voice messaging, leave a message that is specifically for that person and keep it up for a day or less (don’t keep it up longer, voice messages usually are not private)
- tell a joke, a clean joke, “knock knock” jokes are great to encourage several messages back and forth, just start off with “Knock Knock…”
- be a critic and discuss why you like/didn’t like a movie you recently saw, a book you read, a game you played, that coincides with what the person has in their profile

Things not to do:
- don’t ‘photoshop’ your images together to make it look like you’re a couple already
- tell the person that “I prefer the right side of the bed”
- send graphic pictures of yourself, even if you’re a member of an adult dating service, keep your pictures to the point of what you would want any stranger to see (within semi-nude limits) and recognize you on the street from

I am a funny guy

Now, I will be brutally honest with you, I use humor as a way of coping with life. If I can’t deal with it, maybe I can at least laugh at it. And if I can make someone else laugh at it too, well, all the merrier then.

I am often way ahead of others with my sarcastic wit and I even think that some people are put off at me because, while I am laughing on the inside I give away no outward signs of humor. No smiles, no chuckles, just a deadpan face.

The woman I attracted, and now my wife for 9 1/2 years finally understands me and adds in “He’s trying to be funny” when someone doesn’t understand what I’ve said, or maybe why I’ve said it.

All that being said, if you can make a person laugh you can make a friend. If you can make a woman laugh then you might be able to get a longer conversation from here and maybe even the opportunity to introduce yourself to her, get her name and number or email.

Even the guys that seem to have automatic success with women aren’t trying to seduce them through plain vanilla friendship and sucking up to them. They are sarcastic, off the cuff funny and aware of their surroundings, so that conversation, even if just light-weight topics, are easy to follow.

I’m not going to teach you to be funny. But you can certainly email me things that happened to you today, yesterday, and even tomorrow that struck you as funny, or you were able to interpret into a funny situation or sight and I can give you my opinion if it indeed was funny.

Because smiles and laughter are the best way to exchange interest and attraction. You can do this.

I’ve added below some great resources to read further into this topic of making women laugh. Enjoy the reading!

- The Power of Humor

- Cocky Comedy Opening Lines

- Cocky and Funny Examples

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This is the first day of the rest of your happy life. Yes, I mean today, Monday.

Now, I know that some of you aren’t feeling well, some of you are a little hung over from the weekend, some of you have a birthday today and others are looking forward to a little escapism later in the week… good on all of you.

Me? I’m with the working stiffs, and I don’t mean the porn stars…LOL

Did you enjoy the Grammy’s last night? Did you have your 3d glasses for the special viewing segment? Yeah, me neither…

To get back on track, it is Monday and Monday’s aren’t quite so hard to get through if you include a little craziness in your day. This is what I suggest for you, just for the hell of it, go to the bathroom and wet your hands… and with your hands still wet, pretend to fall on someone, or towards someone… let the break your fall or catch you and make sure you touch them… then say “There was no handtowels in the bathroom”… And smile.

And then, when you visit your favorite dating service, after your prank, change your dating profile headline to this:
“I could be your little monkey”.

Have a great day!

Our contest to win $100.00 is now over. Thanks to all that have entered, the winner will be announced on this page once confirmed.

A new contest will be announced soon!

Cold enough for you?

Did you know that, coincidentally, more people join dating services this time of the year (in North America and Europe) because of the colder weather and Valentine’s Day.

First, the cold weather: who wants to be outside all the time when it’s this cold. And do you really feel all that attractive when your dressed for the cold weather? Think hoods, scarves, big snow boots… yeah, not attractive at all, right?

Then the double whammy of Valentine’s Day: cultural conditioning that tells you if you’re single on February 14th, well, you’re just not like the other people, you know, the people that have someone.

Before I go into the Profile Headline of the Day suggestion for you, I’m going to give to you, here and now, my Top 5 Winter Dating Services to join for free so you can meet some really nice people and have a date for Valentine’s Day.

After all, you can explain the weather forecast for not being able to meet people (which is a blatant lie, in the cold weather dating services, the good ones at least, double or triple their new member signups through March) but when your parents call, a relative calls, or maybe a friend catches up with you, you don’t want to have to offer to them, again, that being single is a lifestyle choice all the while you’re secretly drooling over someone fantastic you’ve seen online but have yet to meet.

You’ve got the motivation, now join these 3 top winter dating services and meet someone nice, or wild, or both! Posted in no particular order (and more of our favorite top ten dating services will be shown over the next few days, stay tuned):

1. 5 Days Free with Match.com

2. Match Affinity - New for those yobs across the pond… just kidding, some of my best friends speak english…

3. Lavalife - all the great features and speed dating too!

So get busy and meet some people! And the headline suggested for you to post today? Try this:
“I’m planning a summer vacation. Interested?”

Have a great day!

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Enter here.

Online entries only.

Contest closes January 31 2010 at 10:00pm Pacific time.

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