Friday: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Damn I’m happy the last day of the week has arrived and I have two days away from the office to actually spend meeting people of my own choosing.
Not that I haven’t met some great people this week, but none of them are “date worthy” if you know what I mean.
So in the spirit of these regular postings I’m changing my headline and hoping for some immediate responses that will lead to a date or two. I’m not saying what site I’m on because I don’t need any additional “crazies” following me, lol.
So update your headline to this and have a fascinating weekend full of new people and experiences:
“Let’s hope I don’t meet someone else before I meet you!”
Have a great day!
Woman Loses $300,000: Online Dating Scam
As long as people can find love without meeting each other - and have a strong belief that love is what they’re in, then there is the “other side of the fence person” that just wants to rip you off.
Take the recent story of a 66-year-old San Jose divorcee as an extreme, but happening all too often, example. ABC News has all the details and there’s also some good advice about how to recognize the alarm bells that should be going off in your head when you’re falling into the love-spell of a scammer.
I will sum up what you need to know:
- they seem unaware of current events where you live or tell you they live far away
- they ask you to contact them outside of the dating service
- the scammer asks you for money, small amount at first to test you, larger amounts later
- they may seem “out of sorts” or forgetful about things you’ve talked about (because it’s a second person helping with the scam now talking with you
My Golden Rule of online dating is “It can’t be love until you’re close enough to smell them”.
Hacking Your Online Dating Profile
The big news for today is how one guy hacked OKcupid.com to better his odds of finding love online - and it worked!
Chris McKinlay, a professed math geek and programmer, wrote a script, and several fake profiles on OKcupid.com to make his efforts of finding love easier. He managed to get 80+ dates in a short amount of time, after months of being unsuccessful prior to creating his bot-dating helpers, and even find true love, popping the question over Skype while his love was working far, far away (this wasn’t a long-distance affair to start with, it should be noted).
You can read the in-depth details on Wired.com here and maybe be inspired to work a little harder on your own methods.
But using fake profiles and automated systems on OKcupid.com is against policy and could get you banned before you find love. You’ve been warned.
When We First Meet: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Is there anything quite like the experience of a first face-to-face meeting with someone you met online?
The excitement tempered with the “hopeless cause”.
The anticipation versus the anxiety.
It’s a real mixed bag of an emotional roller coaster, isn’t it?
But like the many “firsts” that you have in your life, this too will happen and fate will lead you together or break you apart.
Keep my golden rule in mind: “You don’t really know someone until you’re close enough to smell them.”
To get you closer to that first meeting you need to have a profile headline that invites someone to contact you. Today try this:
“When we first meet I’ll be the guy trembling with nervousness.”
Have a great day!
Polar Vortex: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
“Never under estimate Mother Nature.”
How many times has this rule interrupted your otherwise peaceful plans for the day… or changed the outcome of a well planned vacation?
Today there is a “Polar Vortex” headed my way and to put a positive spin on it I’m going to take a selfie (actually I’ll enlist a perfect stranger to take my photo while I’m bundled up yet looking extremely cold outside because selfies are really bad for your online photo album) and I’ll change my dating profile headline to be appropriate to the photo and the weather.
And hope that a nice lady my age invites me for a date that includes a warming brew of coffee or hot chocolate.
My personal ad headline will be (and you can use this too if you like):
“Cold outside, warm inside…. want to share a minute or two of togetherness?”
Keep your profile and photo album fresh and relevant. This makes you interesting and adorable too. Everyone likes “adorable”, it’s rated right up there with “cute’… which despite all the bad press, cute is adorable.
Sugar Fix: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Writing a headline for your dating profile is either easily done or a real chore.
I want you to think of your headline as an instant look into the type of person you are contained in just a few words.
To achieve this it’s important to focus on one thing that someone else can identify with.
And to invite someone to want to find out more about yourself.
For today I want you to use a sugary treat you enjoy as the subject of your dating profile headline.
Here’s a suggestion:
“We can share my favorite chocolate chip cookies.”
Simple, inviting and maybe will lead to an invitation to join me at my favorite coffee shop for a coffee and a cookie.
Try your own variation and let me know how it works out for you in the comments below.
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Someone visited your profile: The Next Step
So someone finally visited your profile… that’s great news.
But they didn’t message you… are you not worthy or were they not interested?
Or maybe they just don’t want to speak first.
That happens a lot, more than you’d think.
It doesn’t hurt to be the one to send the first message.
But what do you say?
I’ll make it easy for you, say this (feel free to copy and paste it as is):
Hi, I noticed that you stopped by for a peak at my profile but didn’t send me a message. Just in case you’re shy I thought I’d send you a friendly hello and get the ball rolling.
Hello!
That was easy and painless…. honest.
I’m sure we share enough in common to at last hold a conversation for a while and I hope you’ll message me back soon.
Hope to hear from you soon.
You can just copy and paste the whole message above and use it as is, or change it up a bit to me more your own style.
The key is to send the message, without commitment or clinginess.
Who knows, this person could become a great friend or the next true love of your life!
Good luck.
Dating In The News
This week’s dating news roundup has some interesting stories. Enjoy!
7 Rules For Online Dating Profile Pix That Get You Noticed. Huffington Post (blog)
It is the key for opening the door to being contacted on dating sites.
(Editor: There is some good advice here that breaks down to: use a current photo! Use several photos of yourself, standing, sitting, full body and head shots)
Now, dating site that allows you to rent rooms from hotties. ANINEWS
A new dating site has been launched, which allows a person to rent rooms from a person that they find attractive.
(Editor: Roommate site shave been around seemingly forever. But I wouldn’t rent to someone who rents just to hit on me… just saying.)
Enough Said for the guide to post-divorce dating
Irish Examiner
WE can all imagine the angst, the fears and horrors of post-divorce dating. Will we have anything in common? Who pays on the first date?
(Editor: That second trip on the path to romance is hard. Doing it all can be a most awkward endeavor.)
20 Suggestions for Younger Men Dating Older Women Online. The Good Men Project
Being what they call an older woman, I have been dating younger men for quite awhile. Here are some of my suggestions.
(Editor: it’s not that the rules have changed but dealing with the attitude can be hard.)
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When He Doesn’t Want To Get Serious
Here’s a recent article to help you move your relationship in the right direction:
When He Doesn’t Want To Get Serious This Is What You Do
Excerpt:
This isn’t a rare thing that’s happening to you. Most women deal with this because the guy they’re dating doesn’t understand your view of your being together.
And it doesn’t really matter that you’re not alone in this, most women have gone through it too.
You can’t trick him into changing his attitude and you can’t offer an ultimatum because then you’re being bossy and controlling.
And you might push him away which is the opposite of what you want to do anyways.
