Friends With Benefits Rules
Friends With Benefits
That being said, here are the rules of FWB recently emailed to me:
1. No-one else is to know of our arrangement - not my family/friends/colleagues or theirs.
2. No going out in public together - EVER.
3. No emotional involvement. IF their emotions became involved, I expected them to say so and back off…I agreed to do the same.
4. The relationships were entirely about sex, skin on skin contact and mutual physical pleasure.
5. No more than two visits per week.
6. Maximum of one sleep over per week.
7. Visits to be arranged by phone on the day of a meeting….no explanations required or to be given if the person called is not available/not interested on that day..a simple, “not today” is all that is required.
8. Dating other people was allowed - FWB relationship was to be called off BEFORE sleeping with anyone else.
9. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom…what happens outside the bedroom stays outside the bedroom…I don’t want to hear about their work / family woes and I wouldn’t share mine with them.
10. We are each to be responsible for getting our own needs met.
11. If we meet on the street or at a function, we speak politely but do not touch each other or try to arrange a visit.
Does this make it easier or harder to be FWB?
Your Privacy, Facebook and Mark Zuckerberg
Open Letter to Mark Zuckerberg, founder, Facebook.comDear Mr. Zuckerberg,
Anyone over 30 will tell you that their lives are private. Even celebrities that live in the spotlight seek personal and private time for themselves.
Why? Because, as the social creatures that we humans are, we like also to be in control.
And our basic type of control is in what we share about ourselves, because, we believe, that what we deem to be personal and private ought to stay that way.
Now comes along a guy in charge of a very large company, with millions of members that “share” their private stuff with friends by using this guy’s online social website.
Certainly we use this site (and many other sites like it as well) to exchange messages, as well as daily events, with our friends there. We do so under the guise that no matter what, if we want certain aspects of our lives to remain private then we want to have control over the information that is made available about ourselves. Now and at any time in the future, as we see fit.
We shouldn’t have to ask, beg or plead for this type of control, it should be offered freely and respectfully to us.
But you, Mark Zuckerberg, head of Facebook.com, a social website with more than 350 million members, doesn’t see the privacy and the personal control issue this way.
Watch the video:
The norm for posting things on the web has been, and likely will always be, that as soon as you publish it, it’s there forever.
However, this is contrary to the privacy laws of many countries and as a private company Facebook.com walks a very fine line with their privacy policy and the access/denial and post/unpublish controls that members have over what they themselves post as public/private content.
Mark Zuckerberg would have us believe that their are more people that feel that there should be no privacy controls whatsoever for online social services (as if that was the beginning and the end of the privacy issue concerning a private person publishing content to their “own” pages) and that everything should be public. Period.
Mr. Zuckerberg, I ask you to maintain, if not improve, the controls that members have to protect the personal information that they post on your social business website and turn yourself around from believing that many people want the world to operate in a different way.
Certainly there are millions of people (generally under the age of 30) that do not quite grasp the reality of what privacy really means. They do not understand how the Internet will follow them for the rest of their lives. They have yet to see the challenges of information being used against them, like some totalatarism machine that is about to be awoken.
Yes, everyone is Googling everyone else. We search Facebook.com as well as many other online social services to get the “honest story” of someone’s life, maybe someone we have just met, maybe an employment candidate.
People should be in charge of what they publish as much as possible, not as little as possible. And that should extend into the future just as copyright protects books from being unfairly republished and/or the rights of the author stripped away before legally permissable.
Mr. Zuckerberg, reverse your stand, rethink your position.
Or within 5 years we will see the implosion of Facebook.com because of the now very real personal information danger spot it will become.
Regards,
Robert Lee
Hump Day’s Motivational Picture
I can think of nothing better that to give you the picture of a beautiful woman standing on the beach, so here it is, for this most brutal of “Hump Day’s”: the Wednesday between the holiday time away from work days. Yes, this year it’s December 30, forever to live in hatred because, well, we’re at work. Yes, the worse day golfing (fishing, pedicuring, spaing, etc.) is better than the best day at work.Imagine with me for a moment:
Women: this picture is you
Men: you are beside her just to the left
Now… wake up, you have important work things to do.
The “Wizard of Oz” Hanging
Yes, some 70 years later this matter of a hanging munchkin as Dorothy et al walk happily down the Yellow Brick Road still rankles some.
Me, I could care less, maybe even less that that.
I didn’t need to know…
Demi Moore suffers from age discrimination.
Seriously, Ashton Kutcher has done so much better?
But I really didn’t need to know that she turned 47 yesterday, November 11.
She still looks good for an old hat, don’t ya think?
I didn’t need to know…
Sandra Bullock is married to a guy named Jesse James.
The dude, of ‘Monster Garage’ fame, is also famous for being the ex of porn star Janine Lindemulder. If that’s something you can be famous for… I don’t know.
Sandra Bullock and three degress of separation from porn?
Really?
No, I purposely didn’t link to any of Ms. Lindemulder’s movies, thank you very much, but you can look if you want.
And why do I care who Sandra B is with?
I don’t. I just really, really, didn’t need to know all this extra stuff… except, maybe, which dating service hooked them up?
I didn’t need to know…
Why Britney Spears still sucks.
Lip-syncing… really?
Fans are shocked?
Really?
Well, maybe only in Australia…
