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17
May

The 20 Words to Use in Your Profile to Be More Attractive

Eharmony.co.uk has released a survey by scientists that reveal the top 20 words that you should use in your profile answers to be more attractive to the opposite sex.

While the words in and of themselves don’t change your match worthiness, they certainly add to the attraction factor that will help you receive more responses to your profile.

Using these “date factor” words will help you to be more attractive, even beyond your profile picture, although you till need to follow the rules for proper, effective profile pictures.

Women that use these words get better responses:
Sweet +46%
Ambitious +39%
Thoughtful +30%
Spontaneous +30%
Physically fit +22%
Funny +21%
Outgoing +19%
Optimistic +17%
Hard working +17%
Passionate +16%

Men that use these words get better responses:
Physically fit +69%
Ambitious +64%
Perceptive +63%
Passionate +53%
Optimistic +44%
Funny +38%
Spontaneous +33%
Thoughtful +21%
Affectionate +17%
Outgoing + 17%

Just keep in mind, it’s not enough to “say it”, you have to “be it”.


17
May

Making The Most Of Your Free Communication Weekend

With just a couple of days left in Canada’s May Free Communication Weekend (the USA Free Communication Weekend is coming soon) I thought I’d share a few tips for getting the most of the time you have to use the guided communication this dating event offers.

While it’s true that you are using eharmony’s preset questions to discover possible matches, there is a lot to learn about your possible match within this promotion.

You’ll want to complete your profile as much as possible, even though only premium members will see your photo or be able to email you and call you within eharmony’s safe messaging system.

Start by sending out smiles to members that catch your interest. Click on their name and then click the right arrow on the screen to read their profile. Not everything is revealed but there is enough to help you learn more about them and begin the guided communication to learn even more.

This system of contact, although limited and quickly exhausted, does give you great insight into the person you are messaging and whether or not the upgrade to premium is worth it at this time.

You’ll want to send out about 10 smiles to get started and answer a whole lot of questions too.

Prepare to spend a few hours throughout the free communication event to use it to your best advantage.

I’d be really surprised if you didn’t find at least 4 or 5 members out of the 10 you send smiles to that are worth a couple of dollars to contact further.

It’s an exciting time to date online. Plenty of active members and learning about the potential for love that you are not aware of if you don’t take part.

Get started now!

Three Steps of Guided Communication

22
Jan

Hacking Your Online Dating Profile

The big news for today is how one guy hacked OKcupid.com to better his odds of finding love online - and it worked!

Chris McKinlay, a professed math geek and programmer, wrote a script, and several fake profiles on OKcupid.com to make his efforts of finding love easier. He managed to get 80+ dates in a short amount of time, after months of being unsuccessful prior to creating his bot-dating helpers, and even find true love, popping the question over Skype while his love was working far, far away (this wasn’t a long-distance affair to start with, it should be noted).

You can read the in-depth details on Wired.com here and maybe be inspired to work a little harder on your own methods.

But using fake profiles and automated systems on OKcupid.com is against policy and could get you banned before you find love. You’ve been warned.

4
Dec

Someone visited your profile: The Next Step

So someone finally visited your profile… that’s great news.

But they didn’t message you… are you not worthy or were they not interested?

Or maybe they just don’t want to speak first.

That happens a lot, more than you’d think.

It doesn’t hurt to be the one to send the first message.

But what do you say?

I’ll make it easy for you, say this (feel free to copy and paste it as is):

Hi, I noticed that you stopped by for a peak at my profile but didn’t send me a message. Just in case you’re shy I thought I’d send you a friendly hello and get the ball rolling.

Hello!

That was easy and painless…. honest.

I’m sure we share enough in common to at last hold a conversation for a while and I hope you’ll message me back soon.

Hope to hear from you soon.

You can just copy and paste the whole message above and use it as is, or change it up a bit to me more your own style.

The key is to send the message, without commitment or clinginess.

Who knows, this person could become a great friend or the next true love of your life!

Good luck.

20
Apr

Online Dating Tips

We all want to find the right dates when we look for dates, right?

Here are some tips to help you get started with dating online and making lasting friends and even finding lovers.

27 Words That Should Never Ever Be a Part of an Online Dating Username. Glamour (blog)
I once had a guy ask me, in my professional opinion, if profile names mattered when it came to online dating. Whether my opinion was sought as a professional dating blogger or just a professional single person (ouch), I told him it didn’t really …

Single Christians experiencing ‘anxiety’. ChristianToday
Online dating service Christian Connection has spent the last few months surveying thousands of single Christians on their experiences in the church. The decline in younger people attending church means many single Christians are struggling not only to …

Digital Get Down: Perfect your profile. Daily Northwestern
What’s one of the most obvious advantages of online dating? You have the chance to tell people all the wonderful things about you before they even meet you. You can put your best (virtual) foot forward and create a profile that will show off how unique …

How to look for love and companionship online. Edmonds Beacon
Dating sites have become enormously popular among the older generation in recent years. In fact, boomers and seniors make up about 20 percent of online daters today, and the numbers keeps growing. Here’s what you should know. If you’re interested in …

19
Nov

Online Dating in the News

Dating has it’s own set of rules and steps to follow. It’s good to know that there is also a never-ending stream of ready-to-help dating advice online. Here are the most recent dating advice tips you’ll want to know about.

MidlifeBachelor.com Releases New Dating Tool To Help Men Track Online Dates. DigitalJournal.com (press release)
Let’s face it, online dating can be chaos. For those dating several people at once who they are meeting through online dating websites, a new free and downloadable tool from MidlifeBachelor.com can help overcome the confusion. These days, more people …

Leeds Escorts - Benefits of Online Dating and Escort Services. Melodika.net (press release)
Most of us searching their love or a genuine companion at wrong places. This has created a perception of not finding the true love with the help of so many services who claim that they provide one of the best escort and dating services in the market …

What does a sugar baby want? Independent Online
New dating website Aluxxa.com, now launched in South Africa, caters for young, attractive women, allowing them to filter the profiles of driven, successful men by occupation. But these men aren’t your mother’s idea of sugar daddies. Today’s sugar …

Kiwis not sold on finding love online. New Zealand Herald
The survey by research company UMR, commissioned by online dating service Go Break The Ice, also found 43 per cent of people trusted their friends and families when it comes to dating advice, tips and recommendations. In spite of the figures, the …

The Excuse I Refuse To Accept: ‘It’s Complicated’. Huffington Post (blog)
One such man, we’ll call him Bob, went to elaborate lengths to lie about his status, even using the wrong hometown in his online dating profile. It took a little detective work to figure out what was going on and when I asked if he was married, he …


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7
Oct

Dating in the News

There’s weird events in your dating life, things you’ll experience even if you don’t want to… just because. But these first dates? Egad!
Flowers, for me?! Salon
There’s little that could shock me on a first date (or “date,” heavy on the air quotes). Not dirty talk, not sex — not even non-verbal attempts at anal. One gent announced within a couple hours of meeting me that he really wanted to stick a candle in my butt.



Online dating: Top Seven User complaints against Zoosk. Canadian National Newspaper
As with most things in life, it would seem that everyone will have a different opinion on things, and with online dating websites, there is no exception. For now, we are going to focus on the very popular online dating website called Zoosk, and to be …

New eBook inspired by Examiner article becomes an Amazon Top 10 “The Possibility of Sex: How Naive and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly”. Examiner.com
Alan Roger Currie, an internationally known book author, dating advisor, and public speaker, “The vast majority of dating and relationship book authors seem to gear their advice toward helping women in today’s dating scene and effectively identify various types of undesirable men that they should avoid connecting with in today’s dating scene. Are there any such books available for single heterosexual men as well?”


10 Tips For Getting Back Into the Dating Game. The Stir
It happens to most of us single folks at some point or another - we decide to give the dating merry go round another spin. For those of us who’d been in committed relationships a long time, it’s hard to know where to begin to date again. Here are some tips …



Dear David: Are all guys lewd and gross? Seattle Post Intelligencer (blog)
During our date he said some peculiar things to me, first he said “I like your curves;” ok, that’s fine, maybe even cute. Then he said “I love to watch you walk;” hmmmm, ok to each his own. Then he grabs my (butt), pulls me toward him and whispers in my ear and says I’d like to bite …

9 things you must do when an online date goes IRL. Today.com (blog)
You’re online dating to find love (or sex), not a new pal. So ask the object of your Internet affection on a real date, with a suggested time and place. Make it an event that’s easy to end early if it’s terrible, but also easy to extend if it’s …

1
Oct

Free Ebook for Men: 7 Brutal Online Dating Mistakes

Written by Jake Vanderhoff
Hey man,
Are you frustrated with online dating?
Does it seem like no matter what you try you just can’t get a response from the girls that you really want to be dating?
If so, I can TOTALLY relate…
Getting women to respond to my emails was not something that came easily to me at all! In fact, The first couple of months I started playing around with online dating I TOTALLY sucked at it…
Getting even an “average” plain Jane type of woman to write back to me was like pulling teeth.
But – as it turns out, this is actually an extremely common experience for guys who try online dating. In fact according to Juniper Research group:
97% of men who try online dating give up within the first three months. The #1 reason these men gave - They weren’t getting any response.

But, luckily for you… That other 3% of guys who learn a few easy techniques get to date… A lot of women – And in this short report I’ll show you how to move towards being one of the lucky 3 percenters!
You aren’t gonna believe how easy this is…
You see, simply by NOT making these 7 mistakes you’ll put yourself ahead of just about every guy in your town.
How cool is that?
Some of these mistakes have to do with the emails that you send to women…

Click the cover to read more…

7 Brutal Online Dating Mistakes - Free Ebook Download

2
May

Making Online Dating Success Happen

Three things you must do to make yourself more successful at any online dating service.

Honesty: Many people make the mistake that online dating is just a fantasy experience, not fully realizing that eventually what they say about themselves online needs to match up with what the people they will meet in the real world meet to avoid disappointment.

High Expectations: We are sold the “meet your perfect match” experience which often is not an attainable goal. Not because your perfect match isn’t out there but because you’re looking for the 100% match not the 70% match that allows you the true experience we find in the real world. Dating is part mystery, finding things out about a person to share and learn to love, when possible. Looking only for people who are a perfect match with your ideals will only lead to dating disillusion.

Have Perseverance: There are three things most definitely true in life: death, taxes and you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince (or princess). Online dating mirrors life in that not too much happens when we expect it to happen, but when we are least expecting love, it happens. Take your time and enjoy the single dating life and you’ll enjoy life a lot more than if you act and look desperate.

22
Mar

The Dying of the Day: Personal Ad Headline of the Day

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Time does not stop.

By now we all know that time is not a fluid, time runs straight ahead, ending opportunities and shortening dates.

As you continue your online dating adventure the biggest block you have in front of you is time. Waiting for responses to messages sent, time running out on how many profiles you can view.

That special someone might be just one more click away, being missed like a possible lover walking down the other side of the street.

If you had only….

You should not be limiting yourself to just one online dating service at a time. Now, I’m not suggesting being a premium (paying) member on several sites concurrently, but this strategy will work well even if you just have a free membership there, keeping your toe in the water, so to speak.

For your personal ad headline today give this a try:
“I am ready, I am fine, don’t let time pass us by.”

Have a great day!

30
Jan

My Wish For You: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Good, Better, Best: Have you ever thought of this as your dating profile headline?

The art of writing a headline for your online personalized is something that a lot of us don’t fine-tune very well.

Spontaneity, as well as realism, is generally demanded.

However, if you can pull off a small joke inside of the usual 80 characters that are allotted for a profile headline you’re going to get a lot more responses.

It’s all about standing out from the crowd, or more importantly, being at the top of the list of the search results.

Don’t forget about originality either, after all if all of the headlines seem similar or the same you’re just one in a crowd lost, in the blur of colorful webpage.

If you take any one of the personality and intimacy tests that are on the aLoveLinksPlus.com you will find parts of your personality that other people can identify with, and you will find the path that will lead to the love of your life.
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Every step of life has a stage and the direction and it’s our need to walk forward positively along the path that we have. But we do so blindly, feeling around our way in the dark, sometimes unsure of our own existence in a sea of people.

Of strangers.

While I endeavor to offer you a new online personal ad headline every day on my blog, it is up to you to decide which is most fitting, which is the most personal of the personal ad headlines I offer to you.

Our goals are the same to reach out and find that someone special.

It is my most fervent wish for you.

My suggestion for a personal ad headline today is this:
“I was blind and now I see that love is still before me.”

Have a great day!

23
Dec

Twas The Night Before Christmas (Chatroom Version)

Christmas Wishes from Santa!

Twas the night before Christmas and all through the house people were stirring, they were clicking a mouse.

They clicked to go here and they clicked to go there, they knew St. Nick would still be coming with gifts for their care.

The boys searched for girls and the girls searched for boys, the men searched for women and the women, well, the women waited for the men to be found.

Chatlines were logged into and bookmarked with care, and friends shared their bookmarks listed in “Google Docs with share”.

When suddenly in a forum their arose a great clamor, webcams jumped to life and men were showing their “personal power”.

There were shrieks and there were moans and then suddenly there were stones. Good old St. Nick had entered the room and had seen the naughty men, rocks of coal St. Nick let fly, knocking the men’s “personal power” back into their desks.

“Oh Danner, oh Blitzen” cried good old St. Nick, “Dial 911 and Dateline and make these men pay for their perverted trick!”

With a shout of “Let’s go!” old Nick jumped on his sleigh, he whipped back the reins and told the reindeer “Let’s get out of here!”

“We have childrens toys to deliver and must make good time this eve, let those men find Perverted Justice and that guy on TV!”

And with a mighty roar St. Nick was in the air, reminding to others to always beware!

5
Dec

The Christmas Pick-up

Even Teddy knows what to do!

You have your list, you’ve checked your budget twice.

Now you’re at the mall, alone, and have the job of a lifetime ahead of you: selecting gifts while picking up women. In a nutshell you’ll be looking for single women shoppers that catch you’re interest and like any good plan you have to have a pick-up line, or two, that will be your introduction and segue into treating her for a coffee date for her helping you.

Your pick-up lines:
1) “Hi, can you help me? I’m looking for a gift for my sister’s boyfriend. Gifts have to be under $20.00 and I think he’s into collecting socks to wear to work. And my name is Robert, what’s yours?”
2) “Hello, your holiday shopping is seems like it’s in order, can you spare and idea or two? My great aunt is joining us this year for Christmas and I want to get her a gift but i can’t think what does someone in their 90′s need? I’ really appreciate a couple of ideas if you can help me out. My name’s Robert, what is your name?”
3) “Wow, look at all these toys, I haven’t heard of most of them. Can you spare an idea or two to help me find a fun gift for my 6 year old nephew. By the way, my name’s Robert, what’s yours?”

The lines above contain all of the needed structure that will give you a very good “in” for the beginning of not only introducing yourself to a prospect but also describing in just enough detail a request for help that makes it seem to not be a cheesy pick-up line but a sincere plea for help from a nice guy that is genuinely out of his comfort zone: shopping for gifts.

Of course you’ll need to customize the lines and add a few ones to better match your gift buying list, the “recipients” and for your personality but that shouldn’t be too difficult.

Keep the cost of the items low, $20.00 or so, again depending on your budget and needed gifts. The single women will be looking for something for a friends or family members children, so think toys, puzzles and games, those departments and stores ofer the best opportunities as well as being helpful to separate the single women from the others.

After you’ve been helped by her ask her if you can by her a coffee, now or later. And get her phone number or email address so you can set something up for another time.

If you do successfully get a date be sure to buy the gift, even if your recipient is imaginary and give the toy to a local children’s Christmas toy drive in your community. Create for yourself some good karma. This way you can reveal the lie to her, if it ever comes up, that you did indeed use a pick-up line on her and at the very least one child this Christmas will open a gift that you are both responsible for, sweet isn’t it?

I’ve done my part, now it’s all up to you brother.
Good luck,
Robert

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29
Nov

Dating Profile Headline of the Day: An Exciting Date

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I’m in a great mood!
My favourite team, the BC Lions, won the Grey Cup (the Canadian version of the NFL’s Superbowl, BC Lions won 34-23 over the Winnipeg Blue Bombers) and there’s no stopping me now! (Health issues aside. Yup, still healing from an emergency appendix surgery but I’m feeling the positive energy, people!)

Great moods are 90% based on your outlook on life and 10% based on the luck of what happens in your life outside of your control and how you deal with your own current events versus the world.

You can win!

I firmly believe that we are all WINNERS,
we just haven’t found the right game rules to play yet, and maybe for right now it’s not dating.

Unless you have confidence in the things you love to do the most, how in hell should you be expected to have confidence when you’re putting yourself “out there”, emotionally and physically, on the dating line in the department of romance?

Consider that if things haven’t been going so well for you maybe it’s time to read some articles about dating and relationships, maybe also an ebook or two to download and read in privacy and take what you’re learning to pump up your dating game.

For today I hope that you’ll start stepping up your dating game right now with this headline for your online personal ad:
“You could be the reason why I stop online dating… You can be The One!”

Have a great day!

22
Nov

Personal Ad Headline of the Day: Self Promotion

“The truth will set you free.”

What a load of crap!

I mean, there are certain things you need to be truthful about and certain people you need to be truthful with but I don’t see that each group needs 100% of the same truths all the time.

Sometimes it is within generally agreed upon interpersonal manners to offer a little white lie to spare someone unnecessarily hurt feelings.

Online dating is often filled with all kinds of little white lies and has been the subject of countless surveys determining what will most likely be lied about.

For the ladies:
- age
- weight

For the men:
- height
- job

All that being said there’s nothing wrong with a little self promotion, after all, what is a dating profile if not a way to seek the attention of someone?

The trick to the method is saying enough to offer someone a little insight into your professional and personal life without giving away the store and having nothing to talk about when you finally get together face to face.

Remember to be:
Gratious
Real
Endearing
Animated
Truthful

And the both of you will have a GREAT date.

For your dating profile headline why not give this honest headline a try:
“Five Star Date at a One Star Diner.”

Have a great day!