Without a doubt, I’m sad to report, some people enter the online dating world because of their misguided effort to change their lives.

Not to say that sharing your life is the wrong thing to do but you truly have to be in “that place” in your life where honest sharing of your deepest feelings and your true reality is possible.

If you identify with either of these two things dating may not be what you need to be doing right now.

• Lonely
• Angry

Being lonely itself isn’t a bad thing. But if you’re desperately lonely then introducing someone into your life, with romantic intentions, may not be the right move quite yet. You need to first be socialized without the dating aspect that can cause you to feel overly pressured to please someone while you attempt to banish your loneliness.

Being angry, due to some of life’s hard knocks, can also cause you to seek solace with someone in an effort to share your pain. Don’t get me wrong, having someone to listen to you as you try to get past your anger and hurt is good, using a dating partner as your sounding board will only end in more anger, not less.

You need to have a positive outlook and attitude to be successful in finding that someone special to share your life with, anything else will just lead to more disappointment and a continuing cycle of anger in your life.

All that being said, when you’re ready, really ready, you’ll know it. Or you’ll be told that you’re not.

Reflect on where you are and consider what has been holding you back, romantically speaking.

For those of you in that “happy place” yet still single I wish you much success in your dating adventure.

To get started on the fast track to finding the person that will change your life for the better forever try this personal ad headline:
“Ready is ready. Are you ready like I am?”

Have a great day!