A well-timed compliment can make or break the beginning of a date and what could also be a great romance.

The first rule of a great compliment is to make certain it’s a real compliment. If the compliment isn’t believable you’ll come across as either a groupie or a liar. If she has great eyes, you might say so. If her eyes are hidden behind thick glasses (and she never takes them off) her eyes might be a bit of a touchy subject for a true compliment.

Generally safe topics for compliments for a woman are: smile, hair, eyes, shoes, nails, dress/fashion sense and finally body (unless she’s in a bikini then her body is number one!).

Men appreciate compliments on: hair, eyes, smile, dress/fashion and sexiness.

The second rule of giving someone a great compliment is to not overdue it. If you’re dating and you give her a compliment every time you see her, you’ll soon start repeating yourself and seem to her to be not a sincere person in your compliment giving. The best compliment givers are stingy with their warming words. Unless she (or he) is really into themselves, giving a compliment should be separated by 3 or 4 dates, maybe even a few weeks or more. But just don’t test the waters by overdoing your complimentary niceness.

The third rule about giving a compliment is to do it privately. Lean in and whisper your compliment, this creates a certain receptive mood of something special being said and it won’t insult or show up other people as if you were to announce the compliment in a group. Women, and men, do compare themselves to others and saying your compliment aloud in a group can be insulting to others and change the mood from friendly and fun to antagonistic and unfun.

For your profile headline today try this one out for size:
“You have a very nice profile page, are you really so (*compliment here*)?”

Have a great day!