Saturday

How many tries, how many relationships do you need to be in (live through) to find yourself someone that you’d spend the rest of your life with?

There have been numerous studies defining the moments that change lives when someone special enters your life. Your body chemistry changes and your mood becomes elated. The body makes drugs that add to your elation and infatuation.

Your world view narrows to just the two of you, nothing else gets in the way of your happiness.

Then it happens. That first fight, that first slight. Your relationship settles into the “familair zone” and as both of you relax around the other the “honeymoon stage” of the relationship ends and then somoene farts. You realize that this (the other person) now defines the rest of your life.

Do you stay or do you go?

This question has created it’s own massive self-help channel of books, dvds, seminars, plenty of ways to get the relationship help you feel you need. And what does this great offering tend to say? In a word “communicate”.

When you can effectively speak what’s on your mind and have a resolution that requires change only on your own part, of your own efforts, life and relationships will be great.

If you enter into a relationship in the hopes of changing the other person to become that “perfect partner” you’ve already lost. I bet you know what already though.

My dating headline suggestion for you today is this, which I trust you’ll use for it’s effectiveness, not for it’s charm that you don’t believe:
“Let’s communicate. I’m a great listener and past playing games.”

Have a great day!

Additional reading:
- 10 Secrets About Men
- Free Dating Tips For Men