Sex on the first date?

Love at first sex?

Really, (now, remember, this is my opinion and you can feel free to disagree) but sex on the first date does not make a solid ground for a stable relationship.

Sex on the first date is entertaining entertainment. Plain and simple.

Women may believe that there can be a “special connection” that makes sex a forward move into a larger picture of a relationship… but it doesn’t. Not on the first date, certainly.

For some “couples” there may be a heavy price to this date climax, an unplanned pregnancy, that should have been protected against, big time. Never mind protections against STDs and other sex related dangers.

But you don’t need me to point that out, right?

Emotions can run high, for men and women, when intercourse becomes a very involved part of what could be a budding relationship. First date sex can raise the stress levels of attraction and rejection quickly.

Sex also raises the bar for the levels that are reached during the beginning stages of any relationship: will sex get better or worse? Will there be sex every date or is was the first date sex just a stepping stone to more sex later in the dating cycle, after a “dry” period?

To summarize, if you’re looking for a fling then go as fast and as far as you want, if you’re looking for a future then you’ll want to play the sex and dating game a little slower.

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