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February 1, 2010

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How to reply to an online personal ad

It’s a truism that your first impression is the most important one. This truth is the same for face-to-face meetings and your first email to a posted personal ad.

If you don’t capture the reader’s interest you just might not get a reply, no matter how much interest you have for the other person. (BTW, it’s quite rude to email someone more than twice before they reply to you, if they do at all. Keep your emails at least 3 days apart too.) Here are three things you need to know about replying to someone’s online profile.

1. What you should say is “Hi. I read your profile and I hope you’ll check mine out too”

2. You could say something funny like “I’m going to fire my psychic if you don’t email me back” and add a smiley wink ;-)

3. Share a hobby you have and explain in less than twenty words why you like that particular hobby. For instance, I collect stamps so I would say “My hobby of stamp collecting keeps me busy counting pennies nickels and dimes and is rarely finger licking good”.

Bonuses:
- if your dating service has voice messaging, leave a message that is specifically for that person and keep it up for a day or less (don’t keep it up longer, voice messages usually are not private)
- tell a joke, a clean joke, “knock knock” jokes are great to encourage several messages back and forth, just start off with “Knock Knock…”
- be a critic and discuss why you like/didn’t like a movie you recently saw, a book you read, a game you played, that coincides with what the person has in their profile

Things not to do:
- don’t ‘photoshop’ your images together to make it look like you’re a couple already
- tell the person that “I prefer the right side of the bed”
- send graphic pictures of yourself, even if you’re a member of an adult dating service, keep your pictures to the point of what you would want any stranger to see (within semi-nude limits) and recognize you on the street from

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