How to have a coffee date

Rules for your first coffee date

When you make the first date, it’s obvious that no matter how much you have talked with the person through email, instant messenger, skype, phone, you really don’t know much about how they are “in person”.

And I’ve heard all the “I met my soulmate” stories and a lot of them fall apart after the first meeting, leading to very hurtful and awkward feelings later.

My rule is that you don’t really know the person until you’re close enough to smell them.

So your first meeting should be an afternoon date, set to last no longer than 30 minutes.

The date should be in a public place, a coffee shop, donut shop, places that do not serve alcohol and that are not in any hotel restaurant or bar that you or the person you’re meeting is staying in. You don’t want to feel pressured into anything or drinking alcohol that will affect your decision making.

You should have a friend at the ready to either ‘shadow you’ or call you at the thirty minute mark to help you end the date.

You can always extend the date but you should not feel pressure to do that and you should feel safe enough to walk away from the date at any time.

Most people decide within the first minute or two whether what they thought of the person is the same of what they think of them when they meet face-to-face.

Remember to have fun and to decide on the second date, should you have one, the things you really want to do with the person.

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