I was recently asked by a girl how she should pick up the “cutest guy” she’s ever seen, a guy that she thinks might be interested in her but to afraid to approach her.

She thinks that he’s interested in her because she sees him often in the library and he often “moves around” from library desk/cubicle to closer desks/cubicles. And she thinks that he’s just too nervous to actually approach her.

She’s right. Most guy’s suffer from “rejectionitis“, the death grip of fear of being rejected by a woman.

But she shouldn’t outright ask him out… it puts too much pressure on him, if he’s so scared of making the first move. And he’ll likely fumble around and just give up.

So I told her to do this:
Get two drinks from the pop machine. It doesn’t matter what they are but they should both be the same drink.

Go to him and give him one of the drinks. Say to him “You look thirsty, here you go.” And continue back to her desk/cubicle.

This gives the guy the “opening” to appproach her (to say thank you and more), as well as toning down his rejectionitis.

The drinks should be the same so that they “share a drink” even if they aren’t immediately together.

Isn’t this a great way to brerak the ice, get the guy’s attention, and help him get over the fear he has of being rejected, of not being worthy to ask her out?

You’re damn right it is!

And guy’s, feel free to use this method of breaking the ice too.