Michael W - The Dating Wizard: The Spell To Dating Success
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Michael W: One thing every guy wants is dating success. I can help you find that secret that is inside you that the women you'll start meeting cannot resist. It's not really magic, but it will seem like you're a new man once you've studied my articles and materials!
If you're sick and tired of being CONFUSED as to what
the hell to DO to succeed at pick-up, then you are in for a TREAT.
So let's get straight to it:
1. BE SUBDUED, IT
AIN'T A SPRINT
The single greatest mistake that beginners make is that they view a
pick-up as a SPRINT.
What guys tend to do is work themselves into a FRENZY in order to
get the adrenaline to get themselves to go up to the girl.
That feeling of seeing a girl and being FROZEN, it's hard to get out
the gates, it's as if it takes the booster rockets of the space
shuttle to launch out.
Then, after all that pressure they exert on themselves, the tendency
is to finally BLURT out something, whether it's natural or something
"canned" (something memorized). They pray for a good response,
hoping that they have done their own part of the pick-up, and that
maybe the woman will now carry the rest of the interaction.
Well, what happens is that this frenetic approach not only does not
look cool, (because it looks like the guy is not comfortable with
women) but it actually makes the GIRL nervous as well, since
emotional states are CATCHY.
There's a LOT to know, but the FIRST thing a woman is judging you
on, INSTINCTIVELY, is your DEMEANOR, the way you seem composed and
calm and cool and collect or the lack of all this.
And even on THIS point, there are subtleties, because you COULD
enter into a conversation with higher energy as well, IF the
environment is appropriate for that, like a club, and IF you are
having the high energy from your own upbeat state as opposed to from
being jittery and nervous.
2. DON'T "EXIT STAGE LEFT"
Then, on top of all this, the guy is looking for any excuse he can
to EXIT the situation because he feels like a MORON or a CRIMINAL or
UNWORTHY.
He doesn't want to be made fun of, so if the woman is not doing
CARTWHEELS, he immediately JETS off.
Don't do this.
Sometimes, the woman is only matching instinctively to the very
states you exuded onto her - i.e. frenzy, nerves, discomfort.
So, if you're not getting the best response, and you feel NERVOUS,
then rather than EJECT, instead, SLOW DOWN your entire system, your
movements, your thoughts, your breathing, etc. It WILL help you calm
down and help her calm down as well.
This will also help you become more resourceful in terms of being
able to be more fun, witty, secure, etc.
Slow it all d-o-w-n.
3. YOU HAVE TO BE FULLY PRESENT
The problem is that too many guys want to have to not actually GET
"DIRTY" by getting DEEP INTO THE HEART OF AN INTERACTION. They would
prefer to just do the whole thing by "remote control", in the sense
of doing this one magic thing or saying something that then allows
the guy to coast and watch the woman jump into his arms.
They want to avoid any emotional risk, (even though most women are
NOT mean, so there really is not a problem of some kind of bitter
rejection or anything) almost as if they are not really there,
instead some mask is there in the form of a memorized line, or in
the form of some hyped "one magic move" that appeals to the lazy
tendency of human beings.
But to get good at this stuff, you have to get into it, you have to
be actually listening and responding, and giving back good energies
to her energies, and not getting frazzled just because it doesn't
always start with a blast.
This takes practice, but it also develops SPONTANEITY, it develops
quick wit, it develops your ability to respond with natural stuff
very quickly rather than feeling stuck or at a loss for words. It
enables you to also get a better feel for what she is EMOTIONALLY
SAYING and not just verbally saying. All this stuff is HUGELY
important.
4. EYE CONTACT
Do I have to even say this?
Five years of teaching guys in person tells me YES, I should still
mention this.
I've seen guys memorize HOURS of canned material but fail to
actually make solid eye contact for even 30 seconds, which is far
more important.
This doesn't mean non-stop never-breaking eye contact. It means that
you are comfortable looking right into her eyes. When you need to
constantly be darting around your eyes away from her, it makes her
feel you are either a sketchy character or lacking self-esteem.
5. TAKE INTO ACCOUNT THE SITUATION
Every situation is slightly different, and this is where CALIBRATION
comes in, a topic I go into further detail in my advanced materials.
So, for example, doing pick-up at a nightclub where girls are with
their girlfriends means that the girls are most likely slightly
tipsy from a few drinks, concerned about how they will appear in
front of their friends, and also concerned with making sure their
friends are having a good time, and also they are all slightly on
guard against guys even though they do want to meet guys or they
probably wouldn't be there in the first place.
So, taking this into account means:
You can be MORE playful and sexual because this is not the workplace
or the library. This is the party zone.
You can make more light physical contact.
You need to not ignore her friends when starting the conversation
with them. You need to understand that if one of the girls who is
her friend is not all that stereotypically hot, that friend probably
feels BAD that her friend gets all the attention.
So it's cool of you to show that friend some respect, such as by
giving that friend a compliment, even though you also have to make
sure that you are not trying to lead her on either.
The conversation should start with anything not too serious, such as
who would win in a fight, Mighty Mouse or Wonder Woman, whereas in a
library you could start a convo with something that is a lot more
intriguing, such as if you bump into her in the ancient history
section, you could ask her if she has ever been to Egypt to see the
pyramids, and then get into that if that is a topic you really know
about and are interested in, etc.
There are TONS of other factors to take into account - is this woman
in university? Is she in her 30s? 40s? 50's, etc? Is she a party
girl? Calibrating for all this properly falls under the topic of
social intelligence, which is another important topic.
6. COMPLIMENTS HAVE TO COME FROM A PLACE OF GIVING
Too many guys go into these pick-ups after hearing how to be all
alpha and how to be the boss, in a very confrontational way.
There is this feeling of it's "me against her", and she has to see
who's the boss.
This is LUDICROUS.
You want to be making her feel GOOD.
The reason that most compliments don't work is that the guy seems to
have nothing ELSE fun, interesting, upbeat, or playful to say.
So a compliment can't be a substitute for not demonstrating the best
aspects of PERSONALITY.
Also, regarding compliments, if a woman is showing repeated INTEREST
in you, then of course you should make her feel good about that.
However:
7. DON'T ACT AS IF IT'S SUCH A BIG SURPRISE WHEN SHE LIKES YOU
Too many guys have a MELTDOWN occur when the woman is showing
INTEREST or even just giving good signals like giggling at your
jokes, etc.
The guy becomes TOO AFFECTED by the fact she is interested.
Now, it's not that you are supposed to WITHHOLD good emotions from
her, it's not that you are supposed to act cold, it's that if you
seem to be SMILING SO CRAZILY from a woman you HARDLY KNOW just
because she seems to like you, it's like acting SURPRISED that you
got the job after being interviewed.
If you were interviewing someone for for a job, and you liked them
for the job, and you then hired them, and suddenly they seemed to be
MELTING DOWN in thanks, in being ecstatic, you might wonder if maybe
this person had never been accepted for a job before and you might
start to wonder if maybe you made a mistake.
Again, LOVE IS A GOOD THING, it's just that you should wait till she
has SHOWN YOU A REASON TO BE SO ECSTATIC. So far, all she has done
is shown interest in you, you don't even KNOW her that well yet.
So, again, by being more SUBDUED, you are actually showing greater
MATURITY, and showing greater value on your part as well than if you
were too impacted by the whole thing.
This is part of where the whole "be cool" thing came from, and this
idea of being cool has been totally warped by most people.
8. FORGET THE INSULTS
Man-oh-man, every since day ONE I was against the use of these
"clever subtle insults" such as "Is that really your hair or a wig?"
or "What kind of coat is THAT?" or any type of rude behavior such as
blowing your nose right up close to her face.
There are so many fricken reasons I was against this that I can
write a whole book on that alone.
The bottom line is they IMPEDE your progress. Sure, it might get you
some immediate ATTENTION.
But, they send the wrong message to YOUR mind about women, and they
set up the vibe between the woman and you in a way that lacks trust,
which means the whole thing is a ticking time bomb. Sometimes an
IMMEDIATE explosion occurs.
All that stuff comes from lacking the right understanding of what
triggers attraction in the first place. If you need to use that
stuff, you are only showing what WEAK "game" you have. I said this
years ago even when it was popular among "experts" to use these
insults. That's me, the rebel who preaches love and not hate.
9. MINIMIZE CANNED MATERIAL
Man, this is a huge one. I believe that memorized material should
ONLY be used when you are absolutely STUCK and frozen and have no
clue what to say. The more you rely on it as a crutch, the weaker
your real skills will be.
So yes, I will have a guy memorize some stuff, but it's his
EMERGENCY CHUTE that is only to be used in an URGENT pick-up crisis,
and ONLY to be used SPARINGLY!
The need for canned material comes from lacking internal
development. From the wrong thoughts, beliefs, and perspectives of
women and of attraction and emotion itself, and of your own
identity. In my live programs, this is the FIRST area I work through
with a guy. I find out what he currently believes and thinks, and I
find out exactly where he is going off track and then I put on the
RIGHT track.
Again, I said this way back, even years ago when the book The Game
was popularizing the use of memorized material - the problem of
course was that millions of guys THOUGHT canned stuff was good since
before they had nothing to say at all, but the reality is that just
opening up your mouth to a woman is not going to attract her. And in
fact, most guys that use canned material do worse than guys who
don't.
For example, the typical thing that a rookie at this game does when
he learns memorized material is he starts to RAPID FIRE all the
things he has memorized to say.
Why does he do this?
He does this because he is relying on the words, and not on his
actual skill to enter the specific combination of states of mind
that he needs, and he is also ignoring the larger context of the
situation, meaning he is not LISTENING to the woman! He is too busy
trying to get his words out--and because this all comes out WEIRD to
the woman, she does not give him a FAVORABLE response-- which makes
the guy feel like he is SINKING, so he then OF COURSE begins to
spurt out his NEXT memorized line, hoping to Dear God that maybe
THIS will get a better response, which of course it doesn't because
his entire FRAME of how attraction works is all wrong.
And of course since all his memorized stuff isn't working, he then
commits two cardinal pick-up sins by ALSO speaking too fast since he
is nervous, so he now sounds like a guy literally reading a script,
and reading it FAST. Like a desperate salesman trying to get
something to stick.
At that point, he's totally not listening to her at all, when
listening is what he really needs to do to get his finger on the
pulse of the moment. He's just ready to fire away with another
memorized line.
And it's not his fault!!!
He has been INSTRUCTED to do this!
By someone claiming to be an expert!
10. IT'S NOT ABOUT BEING "DIRECT" EITHER
And by the way, just because memorizing a script is not the way to
attraction, does NOT mean that the answer is to just go right up to
a woman and say "I like you!".
When you go up to a woman and you go that fast and that direct, you
are FORCING a woman to make a decision about you on the SPOT,
without having ANY time to really "feel" your personality, so in
that case you are forcing her to judge you on superficial things,
since that is all she knows about you.
It's worse actually, she DOES know that apparently YOU don't need to
know much about HER, and that says a LOT about you and your
personality and your values and your priorities in life and your
lack of internal development.
So forget that "direct" stuff as well, it's actually not cool.
You have to instead develop the skills to create awesome emotions in
yourself and in her, AND you have to learn how to create that
all-important CONNECTION.
And that's where I come in.
I just happen to LOVE the ART of creating ALL AWESOME EMOTIONS and I
ALSO love the science of human communication.
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Sincerely,
Michael
"The Dating Wizard's: Spell To Dating Success" article series. When you are able to accept that a woman might potentially not like you, you are then able to let go of being overly concerned with this fear.
This series of articles (listed here) are a small part of the information contained in "The Secrets To Success With Women (more info)" ebook and "The Seduction Mastery Apprentice Program (more info)" on CD/DVD.
