I'm about to share a secret with you about men that most women will go their
entire love lives never seeing or understanding.
why it's critical that you find out about this secret RIGHT
This one simple but powerful insight could mean the
difference between you becoming truly close, connected and committed
with a man, in the kind of way where you TRULY know him.
Experiencing the disconnection and
withdrawal that often comes from a man's fear of “losing his
freedom” or being overwhelmed by intimacy in a relationship with a
woman, who DOESN'T know about this secret.
The truth is, it doesn't have to be so difficult
when it comes to a lasting relationship with a man.
Keep reading to learn a powerful insight most women will
never come across to turn the common “resistance” in relationships
with men from an obstacle to a point of growth and connection.
Oh, and here's something else you're going to get from this insight
that will DRAMATICALLY change things in your love life for the
What you're about to learn will not only help you
understand what's REALLY going on in a man's mind... since, as you
know, men can often not share much or make it feel very easy to
But... it can also have the rare and desirable
quality of actually helping a man to understand YOU more.
Wouldn't that be a breath of fresh air?
haven't read between the lines yet, I'm talking about a RELATIONSHIP
SKILL that's CRITICAL for you to learn if you want a lasting
relationship with a man.
Stop repeating the same
old patterns, that you know from experience, have only lead
to heartbreak, disappointment or wasted energy.
It's time to do things differently.
time to have what you want in love.
It's time to find and
use WHAT ACTUALLY WORKS in relationships with men.
POWER OF YOUR BELIEFS ABOUT MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS
There's something FASCINATING that I've realized is a common source
of pain and frustration for lots of women in relationships with
men... and I want to share it with you.
that can create a subtle but powerful and lasting DISTANCE
between a woman and a man.
Something that even happens for
women who would consider themselves “good communicators.”
Something that brings about the very situations that most
women are looking to avoid in a relationship - such as
disconnection, withdrawal and a lack of intimacy.
talking about here are our BELIEFS.
But how are BELIEFS
important when it comes to dating and relationships with men?
Well, beliefs have a VERY POWERFUL EFFECT on everything we think and
You're not always conscious of it, but your beliefs
color your entire perception of what's happening around you.
You just don't see it happening because your mind does it so quick
Everything you see and
experience is run through your own set of beliefs, and these help
shape a set of meanings, feelings and emotions.
So, in a
sense, what you think and feel is largely driven by your beliefs.
Here's where all this gets FASCINATING...
What if you have
an overly “negative” belief?
And what if you have a
belief based on fear or loss?
And what if you have a
belief that's just plain WRONG?
The PAINFUL TRUTH is that, if you're like lots of
women who've been hurt in relationships, then you probably have your
own set of beliefs about men, relationships and about yourself in
And, like it or not, some of these beliefs
are most likely shaping negative, limiting or even SELF-DESTRUCTIVE
experiences in your life.
Of course, men have these kind
of beliefs too, and these beliefs subtly drive parts of their
thinking and behavior.
Here's a great example...
Tell me... would a healthy, loving, committed relationship with a
woman really take away a man's “freedom”?
Of course not.
Believe it or not, men are smart enough to know this when they have
a great woman in their life.
But then, why do so many men
still believe this to be true anyway, and act it out in their
relationships through non-committal or withdrawing behavior?
Here's the strange part about WHY...
It's not a man's
“logical” or “rational” mind that's completely in control here.
It's the man's SUBCONSCIOUS BELIEF that a woman and a relationship
will take away his freedom.
Note that I said “SUBCONSCIOUS”
Which means that even if you “called a man
out” about this belief in his mind, it doesn't mean that he'd be
able to see what you're talking about, let alone understand it for
Follow me here?
fact, a man would probably say you were making up “psycho-babble”
and not hear you at all.
But here's the point...
Men and women both have important and powerful beliefs about the
other sex and relationships, rooted deep in their minds.
Do you know YOUR beliefs?
And do you know
how to find out what a man's beliefs are?
Knowing this you
won't fall into common deadly relationship traps other women come up
against again and again with men and can NEVER get the clarity that
IDENTIFYING YOUR “LIMITING BELIEFS” AND
THE COMMON SITUATIONS WITH MEN THAT CREATE THEM
After years of research, study and observation, I've found several
of the common false or “limiting beliefs” that keep women from
loving and having lasting relationships with men.
course, I've also found common “limiting beliefs” that men have -
ones that seem to, in situation after situation, make it difficult
for them to be in committed relationships.
let's start by talking about the most important person
Let me ask you an important
Have you ever wondered if there's something
you're just plain missing about men in general?
That when it
comes to how men think, feel and behave in relationships, they're
really all messed up and strange?
I've learned from women about what's really puzzling about
How can a man be so open, generous, loving and
caring early on and at various times in a relationship, but then act
like you aren't the same two people who share so much when things go
I've seen this myself, and I've heard it from TONS
of women who've I've met, spoken to, worked with and received emails
In fact, to be honest, I've
even been that guy myself in the past.
The reality is that
a man can go from caring, protective, complimentary, and emotionally
engaged with a woman, and then suddenly become distant, cold or
All as though he was never even emotionally
involved in the first place.
Know what I'm talking about
Give me a silent nod if you've experienced this
kind of thing with a man before.
When it happened, you probably felt, on some level, like you'd NEVER
understand what in the world is going on with men.
You probably felt like you'd NEVER MEET A MAN who
was different and who would UNDERSTAND YOU.
Let alone get
how love and relationships work in YOUR WORLD.
Ok, now guess what these thoughts and
That's right.. these are the BELIEFS that
you've picked up from your past experiences with men.
And guess what else?
They're not very helpful to
In fact, they're actually COUNTERPRODUCTIVE when
you're wanting to have an open, connected, loving relationship with
They also create distance between you and a man -
distance that most women never know they're creating themselves.
But don't worry... you're not strange, messed up or weird.
We've all been there.
You most likely took on these
self-defeating beliefs to try and deal with the pain you felt, and
to help make sense of it all.
There's a direct link
between pain and awareness.
And when you experience pain,
it's a natural reaction of the mind and body to lessen your
awareness, in an effort to help numb the pain.
But here's what you need to know RIGHT NOW...
If you don't start to look for and become aware of your own Limiting
Beliefs, then they'll just keep holding you back from ever finding
what you want. The strange thing is, for some reason, lots of people
like to hold on to their false and Limiting Beliefs - regardless of
how damaging they are.
I like to think of these kind of
beliefs as a “SECRET EXCUSE”.
We each have one, or more,
Secret Excuses that we make up to comfort and protect ourselves from
the things that hurt or disappoint us about our lives or ourselves.
But here's the reality...
Your Secret Excuse is
getting in your way.
Your Secret Excuse is keeping you at a distance
from men, or that one special man, in your life.
Your Secret Excuse is actually taking the new things that
are coming into your life and painting them over with a dark
Let me give you a few of my favorite
“Secret Excuses” that I hear from women all the time when it comes
“Men can't have real relationships.”
“There are no good guys out there.”
“All men cheat.”
Or, how about some of the hopeless ones...
“Even if I find
a great guy, he won't end up truly loving me... and it won't last.”
“I never get back what I put in when it comes to relationships. I
Or, there are the martyr beliefs...
just not meant to have true love in my life - and all these past
heartbreaks and failed situations are PROOF.”
something wrong with me as a woman, and I won't be able to fix it,
so I'll give up on finding real love in my life.”
there's the single most popular and common limiting and
self-defeating belief out there...
It's so subtle and
pervasive that some women pass it around to each other daily,
without even noticing how negatively it effects them -
“Men are jerks.”
If you don't
understand how destructive this can be, imagine this...
What do you think would be going on for a man if he had repeatedly
said that he thought women were all “hysterical?”
about, “Women are all bitchy?”
Not a very healthy outlook
on women and relationships here, right?
Not the kind of guy
you want to make a “go of it” with... right?
“baggage” to overcome.
Or maybe worse...
deeply rooted personal BELIEFS to break down before a man would ever
actually SEE YOU for who YOU are and be “present” with you.
Translation - lots of emotional distance and a severe lack of
understanding and intimacy.
PUTTING YOUR NEW AWARENESS OF
“LIMITING BELIEFS” TO WORK IN YOUR LOVE LIFE
So, now that you've got this new “education” about BELIEFS, how they
work, and their power, what can you do to improve your situation
What can actually create positive change and
growth in the real-world you live in?
In other words...
Ideas are good.
But RESULTS are better.
The very first
step is to take the time to pay attention to your own “voice.”
You know... that one that's in your head that goes off and screams
loudly inside when bad things happen with a man.
yeah, I bet this voice isn't the thing you want to try and get close
to in your life right now.
But the sooner you figure out
why it's there and what's behind it, the sooner you can make a
positive change for the better.
Here's something simple but
(My favorite kind of concept!)
aware you become about something, the more power you have to change
But you can't work with something that
you haven't put your finger on and identified for yourself.
So start by working to pay more attention to the things you DON'T
LIKE, or that BOTHER YOU about men or relationships.
Maybe it's that thing that has somehow happened to you
again and again with men, even though you promised yourself you'd
never let that kind of thing into your life again.
I'm asking you to look at that “crap?“
You're probably thinking that you finally got away from it.
Well, I'm not asking you to go there because I'm sick and twisted.
(not much anyway...lol)
I don't want things to be tougher
than they have to be for you to find and create the love and
fulfillment you deserve.
No... it's because I want you to
be able to move past the things that are holding you back by pushing
them out from the place where they subtly undermine you.
I call this “lighting the dark spots”.
spots” are where we don't often like to look and are the places that
we hide things from ourselves that we don't like when we see them.
But these places, as scary as they might seem, are the source of our
So, when we can bring these
things into our consciousness and awareness, we gain
positive power over them.
Of course, it also really helps
to have experience and guidance when you start off in new areas.
Finding the right information can save you literally years or
decades of time and wasted energy.
And that's where you're
really in luck...
I've literally spent years helping women avoid the
pain and frustration of destructive and limiting beliefs.
In fact, I've been able to save thousands of women from the wasted
time and energy of trying HARDER and HARDER in their relationships
and getting LESS and LESS back.
Partly by just clearing up
some of the critical misunderstandings and frustrations that come
from limiting beliefs.
But also, by explaining
the importance of knowing EXACTLY what to do in each of the critical
situations that come up with men while dating and in relationships.
There are crucial “resistance points” with men and dating... and if
a woman doesn't know about these, it's HIGHLY likely that she'll
trip over them and end up with the common and dreaded emotionally
distant and non-committal man.
Don't end up there, with no
idea of how to change things - without the drama and resistance - on
how "talks" can go for lots of women with men.
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Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.